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I Fell in Love…

I Fell in Love…

Falling in Love…

As I enter this new decade, I am noticing a shift in my attitude and tolerance level.  The things I would accept at 21,  I would not dare entertain at 30.  I have learned to appreciate the woman I am, flaws and all.  Am I perfect?  Of course not.  However, I am worth it.  I am worth love, self-love.  Sometimes we can place how we feel about ourselves solely in the hands of a partner or a person who is not deserving of having such power.  We value ourselves based on how others have treat us or currently treating us.  If you do not love you, you cannot expect someone else to love you.  We set the standard of how we want to be treated.  This is not just in relationships but friendships as well.  I know some women may not experience this issue but there are women who suffer with self-confidence.  I was one of those women.  I decided to fall unapologetically in love with myself.  As I turn 30, I am excited.  It is something about reaching this milestone and being in such a good place, mentally.  I have had to let some things go.  I have had to be at peace with the very things that brought me disappointment.  I am becoming at peace with the very things that are outside of my control and I have no idea what the ending will be.  I fell in love, with me…

Here are three ways you can fall unapologetically in love with yourself:

  1. Love Yourself…more.

    It is okay to love a person, but you have to love yourself more.  I learned a few years ago that love is not a reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship or friendship.  You do not have to stop loving that person to leave.  You just have to love yourself a little bit more.  If a relationship brings me more tears than smiles, I am okay walking away.  I enjoy spending time with me so it simply frees up time to invest my energy elsewhere.                                                                                                                                            

  2. Mistakes are just that…a mistake. 

    Mistakes are mistakes.  This was a tough one for me.  I think around 25, I began accepting that people, friends, parents, etc. were human.  They are human.  They are not immune to bad decisions, selfish decisions.  Mistakes are simply mistakes.  I learned to not take things so personal.  I learned that hurt people tend to continually hurt people.  You cannot always be everything to everybody.  It can become exhausting.  I also forgave myself for my mistakes.  And boy did I make a lot of mistakes.  I am not proud of a lot of my decisions but they made me the strong woman I am today.  What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger right?  I am not immune from mistakes, from mishaps.  Sometimes, I just will not get it right.  However, I will not continue to make the same mistake that I know results in nothing but more stress or heartache.  I love me for recognizing those mistakes and actively making a choice to not repeat them.

  3. Life goes on.

    Life goes on.  I truly miss some of the dear friends I had at 21, at 22, heck at 23 and 24.  One thing about me is I value friends and love them well beyond our expiration date.  I miss those friendships.  While I still cherish the memories, I am completely okay with not having a million friends anymore.  I have an amazing circle who supports me.  They pour into me.  They pour positivity, love, and just plain ole laughter sometimes.  They help refill me when the world seems to drain me.  Most importantly, I know that life goes on and a bad situation or terrible year is no reason to become stagnant.  I am growing and will continue to grow in my personal life, my businesses, and professional life.  I am thankful, beyond thankful, for sorting through some of the friendships to truly find those diamonds.  They are jewels in my life.  Cheers to a new decade.  Cheers to love, self love.  Cheers to 30.  

xoxoxo

Monica 



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Three Reasons You’re Doing Just Fine in Life

Three Reasons You’re Doing Just Fine in Life

You are Doing Just Fine…

“Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have.”- Anonymous

With the constant postings on social media, it can become a daunting task to not compare our lives to others within and outside of our circle. Without leaving the comfort of our homes, social media provides us with the wonderful ability to glimpse into the lives of former friends, classmates, and even celebrities. Do not lose focus on the strong and powerful woman you are! We must never let the things we want make us forget the things we have.  You are doing just fine.  Can we all work a little harder, smarter? Possibly. However, constant focus on failed attempts or the things that did not go right make us stagnant. Sometimes you have to unplug or simply unfollow to ensure your own confidence is not damaged. You may not be exactly where you desire at this present moment but do not forget to acknowledge your accomplishments, your path to happiness.  

Here are 3 reasons you are doing just fine:

1: Your Basic Needs Are Covered

You paid your bills this month! You may not have everything you want but your basic needs are covered. You have a job. It may not be the job or career that you want, but you are actively seeking employment or growing your side-hustle into a business. You have the simple luxuries, but you are constantly taking strides and investing in yourself. You realize that life will have its ups and downs but how we navigate through those moments is a true testament.   I made a habit to truly bask in the small things that are often overlooked.

2: You Have a Support System

You have people in your corner. “Quality over quantity.” As we get older, we tend to realize that we do not need 3 million friends. If you have someone, even if it’s a best friend or a spouse, be thankful for that support system. They listen to you vent. They encourage you when it seems like nothing is going right. One failed attempt does not make you a failure. Do not bottle up those feelings. It is perfectly okay to question your decisions and choices. Use your support system to help you dust off from those failed attempts and try again! You can also consider no longer calling them failed attempts! When I don’t get it quite right, I am simply perfecting the manner in which it is to be accomplished. 

3: You’re Still in Power!

You are a strong, powerful woman! Yes, you. You still have the power to make the change or be the change you desire. You are actively seeking for ways to improve your life. You have taken tally of the things you need to do and you are doing them.   You know areas in your life that you can strengthen and you are working to improve those areas.  I heard a woman say “be attached to the vision but not how you get there.” Some of the very things we have went through, and going through, were simply made to grow us. It served as a purpose to give us a story to share to the masses.   You are powerful.  We are powerful.  Do not discredit yourself.  Do not forget your own strength.  It did not disappear. You’ve been using it all along. Tap into your greatness. Live the life you desire.

-Monica


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The Power of Words….The Time I Walked Away from My Dream Job

The Power of Words….The Time I Walked Away from My Dream Job

The Power of Our Words…

“We can manifest our dreams if we believe in the power of our words.” – Monica L. Taylor

I was speaking with one of my friend a few days ago and he suggested a blog post topic.  He thought I should write a blog about people who are in their ideal job but the circumstances are not so great.  The job is exactly what you desired but the physical location is not ideal.  You are challenged, intellectually stimulated, but the commute to work is unbearable. The manager may not be as flexible as you once remember.  It is your dream job, but why does it sometimes feel like a nightmare?  If you truly believe in the power of your words, it is exactly what you spoke.  I have a personal story about the time I walked away from my dream job.  I learned to love where I was in that moment, and it made me embrace my next move even more.

See, you wanted that dream of being a Registered Nurse.   It came true.  Your words spoke your desires into fruition.  You love your patients.  You love helping others, but at this particular hospital, you have not slept in days.  You are tired.  You are exhausted.  I want you to continually speak positivity into your situation.  I was once there.  A few years ago, I dreamed of a job where I made the perfect salary and did what I love.  I received the offer that was exactly the salary I desire.  I accepted the position without delay.  I knew this was where I was suppose to be.  Was I nervous? Of course.  Was I ready for a change? I thought it was time.  

As time passed, I realized the things I left by switching jobs.  I was once able to telework, work from home, two days a week.  I could no longer telework.  After a year, I walked away from that job.   I walked away from the very thing I thought I wanted.  It challenged me.   It grew me.  It was the most wonderful experience, but with every potential career goal being fulfilled, I knew I was not happy.  It was not the job.   I have always been fortunate to truly love what I do.  I found a great career at an early age.  It was the long hours, the long commute.  I would leave home before 6am to only return around 7pm.  This was not sustainable.   I wanted to be that great manager.  I’m writing this to say, it is perfectly okay if your goals shift.  It is perfectly okay to make a selfish decision that is the best for you.

I ended up leaving that job for more pay and greater flexibility.  I now work at home three days a week and it seems as if the timing was perfect.  A woman once told me you are exactly where you are suppose to be in this minute.  Even if you are stressed out, exhausted, find the power in you words.  You are exactly where you are suppose to be. You know what? Even with those words, it does not mean you are suppose to be in that place forever.  You must learn, grow, and take the good with the bad.  You must strategically align your career and personal goals. I know how easy it is to compare your life with others, especially those who you are merely peeking through a window. You see the nice car.   You know they are at the top of their company.  What you may not see is the inability to attend every soccer game, every basketball game.  You are able to go to your children’s activities or able to simply go home and visit your family for the holidays.  Power is in our words. 

I believe there is a unique greatness inside of us all. We must not doubt our greatness. We must believe. Uncertainty is a part of life but we must push through uncertainty, push through fear, and do the very thing that scares us to get to the place we need to be.  That year grew me professionally in ways I’d never imagine. I am stronger in my field because of that job.  I am able to visit my father who happens to be dealing with kidney disease.  I am able to travel and visit friends at my leisure. I am able to run my coaching business while fulfilling my goal of obtaining my masters.  Am I comparing my walk to my neighbors? To my friends? At one point, yes, I did. However, it is my life to live. It is your life to live. Speak power into whatever situation you are dealing with. Speak positivity. Speak growth. As you grow, strategically plan your exit into the next best situation for you. It will not be easy but it is worth it.  You must speak positivity into all situations.  I wrote a guide where I shared my 5 daily affirmations to truly get out of my own way.  You have to speak positivity even in not-so-good situations.  It is often temporary however encouragement can help you cope.  Download my free guide—5 Strategies to Get Rid of Self Doubt.  

Monica


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I’m Terrified of Flying…. #motivation

I’m Terrified of Flying…. #motivation

Do It in Fear…

I have a confession.  I am secretly terrified of flying.  Not in a literal sense, but I am always a little uneasy during takeoff.  I close my eyes and hope to magically sleep through the entire flight.  Lately, it seems like I can rarely sleep on the plane!  Maybe I should consider Benadryl.  lol.  I have traveled a lot this year.  This past month, I had two round-trip flights.  I actually have another two round-trips scheduled next month!  I have been bit by the travel bug and have no intent to stop flying.  One of these past flights, I experienced quite a bit of turbulence.  It was not my normal turbulence.  It was the “is this plane going to drop out of the sky turbulence?”  Honestly, I rarely experience turbulence.  The truth is I know that planes are built to sustain turbulence and certain conditions.  Even if I have hesitations, I will continue to fly because I prefer a 2-hour flight over a 10-hour car drive.  It made me think:

Sometimes you have to do the very thing that scares you to get to the place you want to go…  

We are built to sustain the turbulence of life.  You are built for this and you are going to make it.  I do not know what you are going through, but I do know that life will throw curveballs at us.  There will be turbulence.  Sometimes it will be expected and sometimes it will be unannounced.  This recent turbulence, the pilot did not announce.  I love a good warning when life is about to throw a curveball.  However, it may not always work that way.  We must remember that even with the possibility of turbulence, we must do the very thing that scares us to get to the place we want to go.  Turbulence is only temporary.  The end-result, the destination is the reward.  Keep flying.  You’re going to soar. 

-Monica


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Have you considered a Life Coach?  Click here to book your complimentary, yes free, introductory session.

Have a question for a life coach?  Submit your question here.  

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 Have you heard about my 5 week challenge?  Do you need help defining your vision, setting goals, and removing external and internal roadblocks?  Be sure to book your complimentary coaching session (yes, free) for more details.  Click here.  If you want to read more about the challenge, click here.


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When Life Gives You Lemons…

When Life Gives You Lemons…

*Pulls out imaginary Beyhive card*

Warning, this is a Beyonce related post.  Do not worry, I will not be reviewing her latest album.  I will not be covering the messages within each song.  I simply wanted to make a post on how she and countless other women continue to inspire women and young girls from all walks of life.  This weekend, Beyonce released a new visual album.  While we may be side-eying Jay-Z, let us stop and truly embrace the entire body of art Beyonce so graciously delivered.

I often wonder if Beyonce gets an extra hour or two in her day.  Where can I find 26 hours in a day?!?  

How did she manage to release an album, write the songs, and even record full out videos while releasing a new Ivy Park fitness line?!?  This woman is unstoppable!  We, you and I, can do the very same.  We may not want to be a singer or do the exact things Beyonce does, but I can tell her aim is to inspire women to stand up for themselves, expel the stereotypes, embrace your uniqueness, and make lemonade when life throws you lemons.  I am inspired.

Inspiration creates inspiration…

One thing I admire about Beyonce is her dedication to her craft.  Whatever your craft is, learn it, become an expert.  Everything will not happen overnight.  You are your own competition.  You are your motivation.  I am my motivation.  Others, known and unknown, continue to inspire me.  Obviously, I do not blog for a living (I would need to put up more posts! lol).  However, I make it an effort to perfect my crafts.  I am not perfect and never will claim to be.  However, I was able to move up quickly in the workforce due to studying my craft, even when I was not at work.  We may not have the Beyonce “funds,” but we do have the same 24 hours that Beyonce has.  I constantly remind myself that I have the same amount of hours as Oprah, Beyonce, etc.  I admire how she approached her latest adventure with TopShop.  She did not simply endorse a fitness line.  She created it and owns it 50/50.  I will make it a point this week to continue to take care of my mind, body, and soul.  I will continue to remove all self-imposed limitations.  What can you do more of this week to carry out those goals you set?  What can you do less of?  What can you start doing? How can we continue the line of inspiration?  How can we inspire the often forgotten?  Some may have never witnessed success directly. I would list my favorite songs but honestly I appreciated each song, from Freedom to Hold Up to Sorry.  Even if I could not completely relate, I appreciate the body of art.  Beyonce will not allow you to just sample singles.  She is truly one of the artists who will require you to listen to her entire album before just purchasing a single.  This is not common in today’s music world.  Beyonce is Beyonce.  However, I am Monica and you are you.  Let us admire but use it as a catalyst to accomplish our own goals through the good, bad, and indifferent.  Beyonce continues to show us vulnerability, even if everything is not directly from her life.  If you experienced a bad break-up, reclaim your power.  There is often growth in vulnerability.

Whatever that situation you are going through, use it as motivation, use it as a tool of growth.  Make lemonade…

What did you think of Beyonce’s latest visual album?  Did it inspire you in some way?  Let us make lemonade this week and forever…maybe even add some strawberries 🙂  When you are done, just continue to smile.  You did it 🙂  We did it… Until the next blog…. Monica Monica L. Taylor is a Certified Professional Life Coach and Motivational Speaker. Monica inspires individuals to get out of their own way and live the life they desire. If you are stuck or need help defining your vision your life, contact Monica for a complimentary coaching session.      

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