3 Ways You Can Choose Happiness
If you follow my blog, you know that my 30th birthday was not too long ago. I had such an amazing birthday. It seems like right after my birthday, things that could go wrong went wrong. Or as I call it, life happened. Life will happen. You know those moments when you’re driving and you hit an unexpected pot hole? You tried to dodge it but it was just too late. Maybe you did not even see it coming? After my birthday, my car decided to pull a Kanye West/Taylor Swift moment on me. My car basically said “I’m going to let you finish celebrating your birthday, but you will give me attention.” I have had my car for nearly six years. I purchased her brand new after a meet and greet with a few trees back in 2010 (fancy phrase for “car accident”). About a day after my birthday, my car battery decided to die. She gave up on us. After six years, she decided she was done. A few days before that, my headlights decided to end their lifecycle as well. I went to a mechanical shop and they said it must be electrical since it would not come on after switching the lights. All and all, after getting my headlights fixed at the dealership, it cost me $258. The new car battery cost me an additional $159. I could have used these situations to be “woe is me,” but I chose happiness instead. I chose to be grateful that my car did not start up while in my driveway instead of out on the road late at night. The cop who pulled me over for my headlight gave me a warning instead of a ticket. My amazing circle of friends had given me just enough money for my birthday to cover the unexpected costs. Do I wish I could have done something else with that money? Of course! However, I choose to extract positive in every situation even when it really isn’t the best scenario. Here is how I choose happiness and how you can too:
1. Don’t Kick Yourself Too…
When the world is kicking you, do not join the world in kicking yourself too. Speak positivity into your situation. I know this is not easy. Frankly, it may seem impossible. However, there is power in our words. There is power in positive thinking. You can’t beat yourself up too just because the world is giving you a good old-fashion kicking. Life will hit us in ways we could never imagine. We must chose to be your own confidant, our own encouragement. We must not kick ourselves too.
2. Remove negativity…
I recall a scripture that says we must guard our heart. Just as we must guard our heart, we must guard our mental space. We must extract and remove negative situations and people from our lives. It is hard to choose happiness when there is nothing but constant complaining around you. Sometimes you have to shift your circle. Sometimes you have to walk away when all the office gossiper wants to do is talk about people, talk about your boss, and complain about their situation. You become the company you keep. You take on their thoughts, their energy. Energy is so important. You must choose the energy around you. Obvisouly, we do not get to choose our family. However, if your family members are draining, try to limit your interactions. Some people will never look into the mirror at themselves and realize the energy they exude. You make a choice of who and what surrounds you. Obviously, some people will always be a part of our lives. However, do not let someone exhaust your energy for free.
3. Make it a choice…
Happiness is a choice. Especially when the situation doesn’t really support happiness. You have to make a choice to accept the things you cannot change and make improvements where you can. We are always a work in progress. Life will happen. Life happens. I make it a choice to find the silver lining in each situation. If I can’t find a silver lining, I just accept that I have to choose happiness in spite of the obvious. This is not easy. I will not lie and say this is something that happens overnight. Life has a way of sending us through things we do not even deserve. However, you must begin finding small things to be grateful for and truly appreciative of those things. Make it a choice. Your happiness depends on it.
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