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The World is Your Ocean

The World is Your Ocean

A few weeks ago, I took an unexpected trip to the beach with a good friend of mine.  When we first arrived, we took lots of pictures and then I told myself to unplug and enjoy the scenery.  Sometimes I need a mini-break from social media.  Quiet times allow me to gather my feelings and sort out my thoughts.  Sometimes we can spend so much time in our phones that we miss out on experiences.  As I looked out at the water, something came to me:  “The world is your ocean.  Rather you decide to swim or tread water, play in the ocean.”  How do you do that?  What do I mean?  Especially being that I cannot actually swim (lol)!  The world is my ocean.  The world is YOUR ocean.  Here are my three ways I encourage myself to play:

  1. Don’t be afraid to swim.

    This is coming from a person who cannot actually swim.  Metaphorically speaking, we must not be afraid to spread our wings and explore the ocean.  We must not fear the very things we desire.  We must not be afraid to step outside of our comfort zone.

  2. Tread water until you’re comfortable.

    I took a swimming class a few years ago and one thing I semi-learned was to tread water.  Sometimes you are simply tired or at a roadblock.  When you’re in the ocean, you either have to keep swimming or tread water to stay afloat.  Instead of returning back to the shore and quitting on your goals, tread water.  Think of your next move.  Think of how you can improve your life and your plan towards your goal.  Even in stagnant moments, we can begin planning our next move.  Tread water, learn and grow, while you get comfortable for the full out swim towards your goal.

  3. Be sure to enjoy the view.  

    Take a moment and truly bask in your accomplishments.  Sometimes we are so focused on what we need to get done that we do not celebrate our accomplishments.  Enjoy the view of the ocean, even if it is for the shore.  Life is not promised so be sure to bask in today.  Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift.  Be sure to enjoy the view.  Be sure to enjoy those moments with family and friends.  It’s perfectly okay to make time for fun in between your hours of grinding.  Enjoy life.  Enjoy today.

How can you play in the ocean?  Are you enjoying the view?

-Monica


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Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace

New Year, New You right?  Evident by all of the Facebook and social media posts, 2017 is right around the corner.  Some of my friends have had an amazing 2016 and others cannot wait for it to be over.  As I read the various statuses, my heart aches for those who seem to just can’t find their way.  My heart aches for those who seem to be tested at every turn in their life.  Sometimes there is simply no answer as to why we are selected to face such difficulty, such a test in our life.  I mean what did we do so bad to get that particular issue?  Was he out of other people to bother?  Karma just can’t be thaaaat long.  I want you to know the importance of finding PEACE.  A few years ago, I decided that no matter what I faced I was going to speak and pray myself out of it.  I am the most overly positive person I know.  I even wonder about me sometimes lol.  Honestly, if you want 2017 to be your year of change, start changing your thinking now, in 2016.  I don’t know what you’ve been through but I know that it was not easy.  However, in some twisted dark fantasy way, you have to turn a negative into a positive, even if only fragment can become positive tools of growth.  I have this saying, “you are exactly where you are suppose to be right now, however, that does not mean you’ll be there forever.”  2016 was a trying year for me but for some reason I cannot even find it in myself to complain.  I am so thankful for everything I discovered.  I no longer feel guilty for choosing me first.  I’m so thankful for the friendships that grew but also thankful for those that may have been shortened.  Would I have preferred some things not happen?  Of course.  However, sometimes we just are not in control of everything that happens to us.  We have to take control of the things we can but most importantly take control of our reactions.  Life is a roller coaster.  We have to make sure our dips are not too deep.  No one wants to just stay in one part of the of the roller coaster for days.  You want the ride to be over and crazily some of you will go get on another roller coaster after just finishing one, literally.  (Can you tell I’m not a big fan of rollercoasters?)  My point is, life happens.  Sometimes you simply have to say life happens and muster up everything in you to smile.  Pull yourself out of that rut.  Here’s my way of approaching each year to avoid the New Year, Same Me story:  

Change Your Thoughts

Oh this one is not easy but I promise you it is worth it.  Earlier this year, I went to South Carolina nearly How to love youevery month or at least every other month.  My dad was sick and he is still recovering.  I watched my father have two toes amputated the year before and his wounds just were not healing.  I literally drove him to his doctor’s appointments and to an appointment daily where he spent about 4 hours in an oxygen chamber.  It was so hard watching my dad and the doctors find one thing after another.  However, I did not stay in my woe is me for too long.  I mean of course I cried.  My own health was suffering and I knew I had to find a way to remove as many stressful situations and people out of my life to focus on me while being there for my family.  Honestly, sometimes you have to just be there for you.  You have to create the most positive environment you can.  You have to think differently.  If all you did was complain in 2016, that complaining bug won’t magically disappear in 2017.  You have to turn those complaints into thankfulness.  How the heck do you thank the world for a messed-up situation?  It won’t happen overnight but you have to believe that this world is giving you some story that’s going to empower you while empowering others around you and even strangers.  The strength of some of my friends is unbreakable.  I witness how you’ve managed to hold it all together while the world is falling apart.  Some of you are secretly letting your world fall apart while appearing to hold it all together to the public.  I’m not saying broadcast to everyone how you’re feeling but please reach out and be honest with your closest friends.  Do not suffer in silence.  Do not get pulled into a place of constant negativity.  Seek help professionally if need be.  Just make sure you get the help you need to find your idea of positive thoughts.   There is no one-size fits all positive thinking however a simple change in thoughts can go a long way.  Speak positive, be positive, find positive.  Shift your mindset.  Change your thinking now in preparation for a better 2017.

Find Peace…Create it if you have too

If you’ve watched any of my motivational videos, I tend to speak about peace a lot.  Frankly, closure is not always gifted to us.  Sometimes we will not find closure.  Sometimes we won’t understand why the heck that mess happened to us.  Why we weren’t selected for that job.  Why we seem to make three steps forward only to be pushed back one.  Find peace.  Create it if you have too!  I know that everything I’ve been through is to be a testament to my circle and strangers alike.  I was gifted this diabetes at the age of 13.  I have battled with it like a “insert some playstation game that everyone knows” lol.  It has been hard.  I’ve done damage to my body because of the up and down blood sugar readings.  Find peace.  Create Peace.  You may not understand why but sometimes we have to accept the things we cannot change and do our best to create an environment where we are at peace with whatever happens but we are fighting our hardest for the best outcome.  We have to find peace when we don’t understand why that friendship or relationship ended.  We have to create peace when we just don’t understand why that happened to our loved one.  It is not easy.  When I tell you I have approached almost four to five years with this thinking, it is a process.  Heck, I’m still working on me but I know that being transparent is part of my purpose.  I know my purpose is helping others while I help myself.  I have to share my growth, my journey to peace.  You can find it. However, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen overnight.  Keep telling yourself that 2016 may not have been the best year but I witnessed it.  I made it.  I fought whatever it was and I’m going to keep fighting this thing and it won’t break me.  It might bend me but I’m not broken.  If you are broken, find peace and create a way to put yourself together again.  You have to realize that some were not even gifted the opportunity to see 2016. You were.  Create a way, find a way to journey towards the new you, the new-and-improved take life as it comes you.  Find peace, create peace.

There won’t always be an answer…

This may be the hardest.  I get so many stories of people going through things or been through things.  It always amazes me when people tell me their background and I’d never in a million years think they grew up in such an environment or they went through a particular situation.  Most of the time I’m like man they are the sweetest person ever and they went through all that?!?  They still manage to smile through it all.  Sometimes there will not be an answer.  Sometimes, life will just happen.  Sometimes you have to stop searching for answers and just find peace.  Some of you are stressing yourself out, spinning in circles as to why this happened.  There isn’t always an answer but sometimes the most difficult situation is given because you have the strength to handle it.  That’s twisted right? However, not everyone could go through what you’ve been through and still look as good as you.  You’re not defeated.  You’re not through.  You keep fighting.  You make those changes in 2017.  You grab life by the horns and you go get everything you desire in this life.  

The new year will not mean a thing if you do not change our thinking.  Find an outlet.  Practice self-care.  Do something that scares you.  Do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do.  Forgive someone who you’d never in a million years thought you’d forgive.  Forgive them for your own peace and closure.  Find peace in 2017 and continually find it the years to come.  We will always be continually improving ourselves.  Practice loving you just as hard as you love others.  I wish you peace in 2017.  I wish you love in 2017.  I wish you changed thoughts in 2017.  I wish you everything you desire in the new year and all the years to come.  

xoxo

Monica 


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3 Ways I Choose Happiness

3 Ways I Choose Happiness

3 Ways You Can Choose Happiness

If you follow my blog, you know that my 30th birthday was not too long ago.  I had such an amazing birthday.  It seems like right after my birthday, things that could go wrong went wrong.  Or as I call it, life happened.  Life will happen.  You know those moments when you’re driving and you hit an unexpected pot hole?  You tried to dodge it but it was just too late.  Maybe you did not even see it coming?  After my birthday, my car decided to pull a Kanye West/Taylor Swift moment on me.  My car basically said “I’m going to let you finish celebrating your birthday, but you will give me attention.”  I have had my car for nearly six years.  I purchased her brand new after a meet and greet with a few trees back in 2010 (fancy phrase for “car accident”).  About a day after my birthday, my car battery decided to die.  She gave up on us.  After six years, she decided she was done.  A few days before that, my headlights decided to end their lifecycle as well.  I went to a mechanical shop and they said it must be electrical since it would not come on after switching the lights.   All and all, after getting my headlights fixed at the dealership, it cost me $258.  The new car battery cost me an additional $159.  I could have used these situations to be “woe is me,” but I chose happiness instead. I chose to be grateful that my car did not start up while in my driveway instead of out on the road late at night.  The cop who pulled me over for my headlight gave me a warning instead of a ticket.  My amazing circle of friends had given me just enough money for my birthday to cover the unexpected costs.  Do I wish I could have done something else with that money?  Of course!  However, I choose to extract positive in every situation even when it really isn’t the best scenario.  Here is how I choose happiness and how you can too:

1. Don’t Kick Yourself Too…

When the world is kicking you, do not join the world in kicking yourself too.  Speak positivity into your situation.  I know this is not easy.  Frankly, it may seem impossible.  However, there is power in our words.  There is power in positive thinking.  You can’t beat yourself up too just because the world is giving you a good old-fashion kicking.  Life will hit us in ways we could never imagine.  We must chose to be your own confidant, our own encouragement.  We must not kick ourselves too.

2. Remove negativity…

I recall a scripture that says we must guard our heart.  Just as we must guard our heart, we must guard our mental space.  We must extractContinue Reading!

Three Reasons You’re Doing Just Fine in Life

Three Reasons You’re Doing Just Fine in Life

You are Doing Just Fine…

“Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have.”- Anonymous

With the constant postings on social media, it can become a daunting task to not compare our lives to others within and outside of our circle. Without leaving the comfort of our homes, social media provides us with the wonderful ability to glimpse into the lives of former friends, classmates, and even celebrities. Do not lose focus on the strong and powerful woman you are! We must never let the things we want make us forget the things we have.  You are doing just fine.  Can we all work a little harder, smarter? Possibly. However, constant focus on failed attempts or the things that did not go right make us stagnant. Sometimes you have to unplug or simply unfollow to ensure your own confidence is not damaged. You may not be exactly where you desire at this present moment but do not forget to acknowledge your accomplishments, your path to happiness.

Here are 3 reasons you are doing just fine:

1: Your Basic Needs Are Covered

You paid your bills this month! You may not have everything you want but your basic needs are covered. You have a job. It may not be the job or career that you want, but you are actively seeking employment or growing your side-hustle into a business. You have the simple luxuries, but you are constantly taking strides and investing in yourself. You realize that life will have its ups and downs but how we navigate through those moments is a true testament.   I made a habit to truly bask in the small things that are often overlooked.

2: You Have a Support System

You have people in your corner. “Quality over quantity.” As we get older, we tend to realize that we do not need 3 million friends. If you have someone, even if it’s a best friend or a spouse, be thankful for that support system. They listen to you vent. They encourage you when it seems like nothing is going right. One failed attempt does not make you a failure. Do not bottle up those feelings. It is perfectly okay to question your decisions and choices. Use your support system to help you dust off from those failed attempts and try again! You can also consider no longer calling them failed attempts! When I don’t get it quite right, I am simply perfecting the manner in which it is to be accomplished.

3: You’re Still in Power!

You are a strong, powerful woman! Yes, you. You still have the power to make the change or be the change you desire. You are actively seeking for ways to improve your life. You have taken tally of the things you need to do and you are doing them.   You know areas in your life that you can strengthen and you are working to improve those areas.  I heard a woman say “be attached to the vision but not how you get there.” Some of the very things we have went through, and going through, were simply made to grow us. It served as a purpose to give us a story to share to the masses.   You are powerful.  We are powerful.  Do not discredit yourself.  Do not forget your own strength.  It did not disappear. You’ve been using it all along. Tap into your greatness. Live the life you desire.

-Monica


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The Power of Words….The Time I Walked Away from My Dream Job

The Power of Words….The Time I Walked Away from My Dream Job

The Power of Our Words…

“We can manifest our dreams if we believe in the power of our words.” – Monica L. Taylor

I was speaking with one of my friend a few days ago and he suggested a blog post topic.  He thought I should write a blog about people who are in their ideal job but the circumstances are not so great.  The job is exactly what you desired but the physical location is not ideal.  You are challenged, intellectually stimulated, but the commute to work is unbearable. The manager may not be as flexible as you once remember.  It is your dream job, but why does it sometimes feel like a nightmare?  If you truly believe in the power of your words, it is exactly what you spoke.  I have a personal story about the time I walked away from my dream job.  I learned to love where I was in that moment, and it made me embrace my next move even more.

See, you wanted that dream of being a Registered Nurse.   It came true.  Your words spoke your desires into fruition.  You love your patients.  You love helping others, but at this particular hospital, you have not slept in days.  You are tired.  You are exhausted.  I want you to continually speak positivity into your situation.  I was once there.  A few years ago, I dreamed of a job where I made the perfect salary and did what I love.  I received the offer that was exactly the salary I desire.  I accepted the position without delay.  I knew this was where I was suppose to be.  Was I nervous? Of course.  Was I ready for a change? I thought it was time.  

As time passed, I realized the things I left by switching jobs.  I was once able to telework, work from home, two days a week.  I could no longer telework.  After a year, I walked away from that job.   I walked away from the very thing I thought I wanted.  It challenged me.   It grew me.  It was the most wonderful experience, but with every potential career goal being fulfilled, I knew I was not happy.  It was not the job.   I have always been fortunate to truly love what I do.  I found a great career at an early age.  It was the long hours, the long commute.  I would leave home before 6am to only return around 7pm.  This was not sustainable.   I wanted to be that great manager.  I’m writing this to say, it is perfectly okay if your goals shift.  It is perfectly okay to make a selfish decision that is the best for you.

I ended up leaving that job for more pay and greater flexibility.  I now work at home three days a week and it seems as if the timing was perfect.  A woman once told me you are exactly where you are suppose to be in this minute.  Even if you are stressed out, exhausted, find the power in you words.  You are exactly where you are suppose to be. You know what? Even with those words, it does not mean you are suppose to be in that place forever.  You must learn, grow, and take the good with the bad.  You must strategically align your career and personal goals. I know how easy it is to compare your life with others, especially those who you are merely peeking through a window. You see the nice car.   You know they are at the top of their company.  What you may not see is the inability to attend every soccer game, every basketball game.  You are able to go to your children’s activities or able to simply go home and visit your family for the holidays.  Power is in our words. 

I believe there is a unique greatness inside of us all. We must not doubt our greatness. We must believe. Uncertainty is a part of life but we must push through uncertainty, push through fear, and do the very thing that scares us to get to the place we need to be.  That year grew me professionally in ways I’d never imagine. I am stronger in my field because of that job.  I am able to visit my father who happens to be dealing with kidney disease.  I am able to travel and visit friends at my leisure. I am able to run my coaching business while fulfilling my goal of obtaining my masters.  Am I comparing my walk to my neighbors? To my friends? At one point, yes, I did. However, it is my life to live. It is your life to live. Speak power into whatever situation you are dealing with. Speak positivity. Speak growth. As you grow, strategically plan your exit into the next best situation for you. It will not be easy but it is worth it.  You must speak positivity into all situations.  I wrote a guide where I shared my 5 daily affirmations to truly get out of my own way.  You have to speak positivity even in not-so-good situations.  It is often temporary however encouragement can help you cope.  Download my free guide—5 Strategies to Get Rid of Self Doubt.  

Monica


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I’m Terrified of Flying…. #motivation

I’m Terrified of Flying…. #motivation

Do It in Fear…

I have a confession.  I am secretly terrified of flying.  Not in a literal sense, but I am always a little uneasy during takeoff.  I close my eyes and hope to magically sleep through the entire flight.  Lately, it seems like I can rarely sleep on the plane!  Maybe I should consider Benadryl.  lol.  I have traveled a lot this year.  This past month, I had two round-trip flights.  I actually have another two round-trips scheduled next month!  I have been bit by the travel bug and have no intent to stop flying.  One of these past flights, I experienced quite a bit of turbulence.  It was not my normal turbulence.  It was the “is this plane going to drop out of the sky turbulence?”  Honestly, I rarely experience turbulence.  The truth is I know that planes are built to sustain turbulence and certain conditions.  Even if I have hesitations, I will continue to fly because I prefer a 2-hour flight over a 10-hour car drive.  It made me think:

Sometimes you have to do the very thing that scares you to get to the place you want to go…  

We are built to sustain the turbulence of life.  You are built for this and you are going to make it.  I do not know what you are going through, but I do know that life will throw curveballs at us.  There will be turbulence.  Sometimes it will be expected and sometimes it will be unannounced.  This recent turbulence, the pilot did not announce.  I love a good warning when life is about to throw a curveball.  However, it may not always work that way.  We must remember that even with the possibility of turbulence, we must do the very thing that scares us to get to the place we want to go.  Turbulence is only temporary.  The end-result, the destination is the reward.  Keep flying.  You’re going to soar.

-Monica


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3 Ways YOU Can JUMP!- Steve Harvey Inspired

3 Ways YOU Can JUMP!- Steve Harvey Inspired

 

“If you do not jump, your parachute will never open.  You will never know what God truly has for you…”- Steve Harvey

If you’ve read any of my prior posts, you will know that Steve Harvey’s story is one of my biggest inspirations.  I have both famous and “famous-to-me” people who inspire me each day.  On a recent taping of his show, he added a new segment where he encouraged a woman to JUMP.  His words were powerful.  He said that every successful person must jump at some point.  “You cannot just exist in this life.  You have got to live…If you do not jump, your parachute Jump Motivationwill never open.  You will never know what God truly has for.”-Steve Harvey

If you do not jump, you will simply carry around that parachute filled with those amazing gifts and talents.  I sent a weekly motivational email to my subscribers encouraging them to JUMP.  I wanted to go further and actually talk about how one can prepare to jump.  So often, people believe that jumping is reserved for entrepreneurs and people who dream of celebrity status.  You can jump in your 9-5 and still live an enjoyable life.

So how can one even begin to jump?  Where do you start?  Here are my 3 Ways to JUMP:

  1. Identify What Truly Makes YOU Happy:  I encourage my clients to live the life they desire.  Do not live a life that someone else would prefer you to live.  Find your passion.  Find a career you enjoy.  If you are not in a perfect fit, take the necessary steps to begin preparing for the career you want.  You must take action.  Jumping could involve taking one class per semester towards that nursing degree, while raising your two children.  You do not have to quit your 9-5 while you’re jumping.  I will never encourage everyone to be an entrepreneur.  To be completely honest, my mother and father are entrepreneurs.  In working closely with their businesses, I know the hard work and often long hours it takes to maintain a business.  On the other hand, if entrepreneurship is your desire, what small steps (small jumps) can you take each day towards the ultimate goal (big jump)?  The first step is to identify what makes you happy.  If you enjoy baking, you can begin baking after work for a small fee (not free, lol) to friends, coworkers, and/or even extensions of your circle.  You can turn your passion into real income.  You may be able to get out of debt sooner than you expected.

  2. Customize Your Jump: Everyone will have a different jump.  We all have different gifts and talents.  I know I will not be jumping out there tomorrow to become a Nascar Driver!  (lol)  It just isn’t my gift.  However, whatever you passion is, you must follow it.  I can truly say that my “jumps” were worth the late nights and even uncertainties.  I’m still jumping!  I remember leaving a job I had been in for nearly 5 years to pursue a promotion opportunity.  I was NERVOUS!  I did not necessarily doubt my ability but it was leaving the comfort of what I knew versus the unknown.  You have to create the best jump for you.  It may involve stepping out of your comfort zone and taking that job that may have a longer commute.  It may provide the experience that you would not have received otherwise.  It may only be temporary but be the very stepping stone to your next promotion or next chapter of your life.  If I did not jump, I would not have monetized my true passion, helping others.  I always enjoyed mentoring and tutoring.  I am blessed to have a 9-5 where I truly love what I do.  It also allows for me to work from home 3 consecutive days a week.  I jumped.  I’ll have to tell you the details of my jump(s) one day.  In short, I went from countless long hours (7am-7pm) and a long commute to working at home where my schedule is pretty flexible.  However, I had to get a few bruises to truly embrace and earn the freedom I have today.

  3. JUMP: It does not matter if it is a mini, size of a mustard seed, jump.  Just do not go back.  Do not second guess yourself when your own inner negative thoughts start to sink in.  In this life, we should constantly be growing and learning.  If you are in a job you hate, complaining will not change a thing.  You must find a way to jump.  Customize that jump to fit for you.  Do not get bogged down in feeling like you are behind in the life game.  This is your jump(s) to take.  Do it at your pace but you must do it.  Do not self-sabatoge the jump.  There is so much life out there to experience or simply so many hours that could be spent with the ones you love versus at a job you hate.  

I could go on and on about jumping.  I truly believe the jump, the climb, the journey, will be different for each of us.  The most important thing is that you are constantly speaking positivity into your life, into your journey.  At some point, you’ll have no other choice but to jump.

Pursue your passion for it is tied to your gift….

Here is the link to Steve’s full video on why we must jump.


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When Life Gives You Lemons…

When Life Gives You Lemons…

*Pulls out imaginary Beyhive card*

Warning, this is a Beyonce related post.  Do not worry, I will not be reviewing her latest album.  I will not be covering the messages within each song.  I simply wanted to make a post on how she and countless other women continue to inspire women and young girls from all walks of life.  This weekend, Beyonce released a new visual album.  While we may be side-eying Jay-Z, let us stop and truly embrace the entire body of art Beyonce so graciously delivered.

I often wonder if Beyonce gets an extra hour or two in her day.  Where can I find 26 hours in a day?!?  

How did she manage to release an album, write the songs, and even record full out videos while releasing a new Ivy Park fitness line?!?  This woman is unstoppable!  We, you and I, can do the very same.  We may not want to be a singer or do the exact things Beyonce does, but I can tell her aim is to inspire women to stand up for themselves, expel the stereotypes, embrace your uniqueness, and make lemonade when life throws you lemons.  I am inspired.

Inspiration creates inspiration…

One thing I admire about Beyonce is her dedication to her craft.  Whatever your craft is, learn it, become an expert.  Everything will not happen overnight.  You are your own competition.  You are your motivation.  I am my motivation.  Others, known and unknown, continue to inspire me.  Obviously, I do not blog for a living (I would need to put up more posts! lol).  However, I make it an effort to perfect my crafts.  I am not perfect and never will claim to be.  However, I was able to move up quickly in the workforce due to studying my craft, even when I was not at work.  We may not have the Beyonce “funds,” but we do have the same 24 hours that Beyonce has.  I constantly remind myself that I have the same amount of hours as Oprah, Beyonce, etc.  I admire how she approached her latest adventure with TopShop.  She did not simply endorse a fitness line.  She created it and owns it 50/50.  I will make it a point this week to continue to take care of my mind, body, and soul.  I will continue to remove all self-imposed limitations.  What can you do more of this week to carry out those goals you set?  What can you do less of?  What can you start doing? How can we continue the line of inspiration?  How can we inspire the often forgotten?  Some may have never witnessed success directly. I would list my favorite songs but honestly I appreciated each song, from Freedom to Hold Up to Sorry.  Even if I could not completely relate, I appreciate the body of art.  Beyonce will not allow you to just sample singles.  She is truly one of the artists who will require you to listen to her entire album before just purchasing a single.  This is not common in today’s music world.  Beyonce is Beyonce.  However, I am Monica and you are you.  Let us admire but use it as a catalyst to accomplish our own goals through the good, bad, and indifferent.  Beyonce continues to show us vulnerability, even if everything is not directly from her life.  If you experienced a bad break-up, reclaim your power.  There is often growth in vulnerability.

Whatever that situation you are going through, use it as motivation, use it as a tool of growth.  Make lemonade…

What did you think of Beyonce’s latest visual album?  Did it inspire you in some way?  Let us make lemonade this week and forever…maybe even add some strawberries 🙂  When you are done, just continue to smile.  You did it 🙂  We did it… Until the next blog…. Monica Monica L. Taylor is a Certified Professional Life Coach and Motivational Speaker. Monica inspires individuals to get out of their own way and live the life they desire. If you are stuck or need help defining your vision your life, contact Monica for a complimentary coaching session.      

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5 Reasons Not to Compare Yourself to Others

5 Reasons Not to Compare Yourself to Others

Reasons Not to Compare Yourself to Others

Is it just me or is there a new social media platform every week?  I social-media-self-esteemlove the ability to glimpse into the lives of former friends and classmates without leaving the state.  However, there is often a side of social media that causes us to take what we have for granted.  When we constantly compare our lives to those on social media, we can lose focus.  I encourage myself, friends, and clients to step back and truly bask in their own path to success.  We often see the social media accounts of others and immediately begin comparing ourselves to their supposed “life.”  I know the feeling!  Sometimes we have to just hit that close button and truly bask in the greatness and path of our own life.  Define what success is to you, not to someone else.  Here are 5 reasons to not compare yourself to others on social media:

  1. It’s Not 100% Real->  When you find yourself critiquing yourself or overanalyzing your own progress, remember that you are only seeing a glimpse of his/her life.social-1206612_960_720  Honestly, social media is just an edited reel of our lives.  We have to be careful to not measure ourselves against the edited reel of a friend, acquaintance, or stranger.  Just like Instagram, people put filters on their status and their supposed success.  I am not saying that their success does not exist.  I am merely saying that people can be selective about what they put on social media.  Granted, some people have no filter (lol) but do not envy what you truly do not know even exists.  You are your competition.  You are wonderfully made.  Embrace your journey.  Embrace your path.
  2. You Never Know What It Takes to Maintain That Presence -> It is so easy to see the material things and begin comparing.  When you are in a constant stage of whining and complaining, you are only stunting your own growth.  You attract the energy you put out into the world.  You may not have a Range Rover like your acquaintance but your Honda Civic is running great and all paid for!  You may not have to work countless hours of overtime to afford your home.  Your route to success does not have to equate to your neighbor’s route to success.  There is room at the top for everyone.  That person you are envying may readily take your Honda Civic non-payment but cannot due to other external factors. Become so concerned about your own life that you do not even have time to constantly compare yourself to others.  Be authentically you.  Practice being genuinely happy for your counterparts.  However, remember to give yourself credit for your accomplishments. 
  3. You Do Not Know What It Took to Get “It”->   My brother and I use to have a saying- “They see your glory, but they don’t know your story.” You may see individuals who always seem to have great things going on.  They are traveling.  They have the best jobs.  You even wonder if they have a job (lol).  Do not think that they are not making sacrifices to achieve that level of success.  They put in the work. As Rick Ross said, you weren’t with them shooting in the gym! (lol)  Everyone does not want or even need to post their “struggle” or obstacles.  Frankly, you will not see me post on every nuances of life because I have friends who I choose to confide in.  I will not be socialfont-533232_1280 media’s entertainment.  Let’s go further, you may see the material things but that person may give it all up to spend one more day with their mother or father who tragically passed.  They would gladly return that life insurance money.  You may not want to go through what they had to go through to get that supposed success.  Embrace your own unique greatness.  Embrace your path.  You are special. You are worthy of your own success. 
  4. Social Media Followers Doesn’t Always Translate to Steady Income->  How many of us want to increase our followers?  Is it just me?  With the constant selling and promoting of teas and waist shapers, I think we all would love a check from social media.  I realize that not everyone is making consistent money on the “gram” and the “book.”  Likes do not always pay the bills.  Do not compare your offline success to someone’s edited online success.  “Numbers don’t lie.” Yes, this is true.  However, there are plenty people who are doing well outside of social media and will never post details of their success.   You do not need to compete with the Jones.  Embrace those who genuinely love and respect you for just being you.  If you are trying to grow your business, remain consistent.  Try not to get so caught up in other’s success that you forget to map out your own success.  There is plenty room on the success train.  
  5. CAUSE YOU ARE SIMPLY AMAZING!!-> I know it is easy to question if you are behind in the life game.  Please believe that you are wonderfully made and simply amazing.  It is okay to naturally desire the things we see flashed on social media (the wife, the husband, the white picket fence, the great job).  However, do not beat yourself up.  Use it as a tool of encouragement.  Most importantly, use it as a tool of showing gratitude.  Embrace your journey.  Encourage yourself.  You are amazing.  What is for you is truly for you.  No man or woman can take what God has for you.  You just have to put in the work…

Monica


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5 Books to Read Today!

5 Books to Read Today!

A few years ago, I made a New Year affirmation to read at least 5 motivational books a year.  I enjoy reading books of varying topics and interests.  You’ll never guess all of the books I have read over the last few years!  Here are 5 books that have impacted my life well after I had turned the last page:

1. Destiny– Written by T.D. Jakes, I still revisit this book from time to time.  This book is on the top of my list because it is one I read this year.  This book touched me so much that I’m actually giving one away!  Destiny truly inspired me to continue to walk in my purpose.  I could not even sum up this book in a few sentences.  It is simply life-changing and provides clarity in your journey towards defining your vision and walking in your purpose. “Steps create readiness.”  Sometimes we want to skip to the top floor, but it is those steps that grow us.  T.D. Jakes encourages readers to walk in their purpose and realize that the time will pass anyway if you choose not to chase after your dreams, your vision, your purpose…

2. Act Like a Success– Written by Steve Harvey, this is one book that had plenty jewels of inspiration.  Many may laugh at Steve Harvey on his failed attempts at marriage and his one-sized fits all approach to dating.  However, Act Like a Success shared a glimpse of his struggle and inspritational story to fame and wealth.  You cannot deny Steve’s ethics.  Act Like a Success reminds me of a TED talk I watched a few years ago that was about body language.  You have to fake it till you make it.  You have to put in the work.  I like to say you have to “faith” it until you make it.  Further, faith without works is dead.  To become a success, you must do successful things.  You must make choices and take chances even when you are not sure of the outcome.

3. Daring Greatly– Written by Brene Brown, this book taught me that it is perfectly okay to be vulnerable.  I recall a quote from Brene Brown on one of Oprah’s OWN specials: “Joy is the most vulnerable emotion we can experience.  If we cannot experience joy, we start dress rehearsing tragedy.” Sometimes things can seem like they are too good to be true.  We may anxiously wait for the rug to be pulled from underneath us.  We must be able to bask in the joyous moments.  It is in those moments we can build up courage and strength if an unfortunate situation presents itself.  Daring Greatly teaches you that  “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

4. The Wealth Choice– Written by Dennis Kimbro, I actually gifted this book to my not-so-little-anymore brother.  In the book, Dennis shared the success secrets of black millionaires.  I enjoyed reading about the backstory of millionaires and their road to success. The Wealth Choice was a really good read and makes you realize that you have the same amount of time as some of your favorite celebrities and business men/women.  Being a millionaire may not be your goal, however, wealth is something that we can all strive towards.

5. The Professional Women’s Guide to Managing Men– Written by Anna Runyan, I read this book prior to entering into a managerial-related position. Yes, I know the title may be cliche but it was definitely an easy read that had a lasting impact on how I wanted to present myself as a manager.  Obviously, there is no one size fits all for managing the opposite sex, or same sex, for that matter.  However, it can definitely be a useful professional tool as you rise up the ranks as a business woman.  As a professional woman myself, I interact with employees of varying levels from entry level to CEOs.  I found this book useful and insightful. What are some of your favorite books?  Comment below.  Be sure to subscribe for notification of future blog posts.  

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