In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”- Deepak Chopra
If you exist on any of the social media platforms, you know that March Madness has been the topic of tweets, posts, etc. I must admit, I do not know much about March Madness. I will not be sharing my bracket nor pretend that I know who is playing next. However, just as the name states, there can be moments of “madness” in our lives. The way life works, we are all guaranteed to have at least a few moments of madness, CHAOS, in our lives. Here are three ways I learned to deal with those chaotic moments and maintain a positive outlook:
- Take Responsibility– When life becomes chaotic, it is very important that we simply stop and breathe. Take responsibility for the things you can control and find ways to not constantly stress about those things in which you cannot control. For example, you cannot control how people treat you, however, you can control if you want to participate in them treating you in that manner. It does not always have to a person. It could be a hectic schedule, unexpected changes in life, or any other life situation thrown your way. Take control and develop a schedule that rewards you for the chaotic days. In the madness, find a day, an hour, or even 30 minutes just to practice self-care. I have days when I find myself really busy. However, I schedule moments of “fun” or “rest” in the chaos. I have learned to embrace it as a time to learn something great. A time to reflect. It can only make me stronger. What is it trying to teach me? Sit in quiet. Sit in peace. Think of ways you can take control of the situation. What could you do more of? What could you do less of? If there is nothing more that you can do, just continue to fight for your inner peace. Turn on the music and dance!
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene
- Manage External Factors– Earlier today, I watched a periscope from the Money Maven, Patrice Washington. She mentioned things that she wished she had told her younger self. She told the group that it is not selfish to save yourself. Too often, we allow external factors and people to dictate chaos in our lives. We stay in situations entirely too long. We partake in conversations that do us more harm than good. I had to learn to balance the “madness” in my life. I made a commitment to myself to try to remain positive even when I just wanted to scream. It can be hard saying no to something or someone. However, you have to manage the factors that will only contribute more stress to an already chaotic situation. I learned that I have to take control of the external factors, the ones I can manage.
- Control Internal Factors– I know it can be difficult to control every external factor in our life. That would be another full-time job! However, one thing we can control is ourselves. We can control our reaction to the “madness”. Do not assist the world in creating the chaos. If the world is beating you up, do not join the world in beating yourself up too. Take ownership. Fight for your sanity. It is perfectly okay to set your pride aside and ask for help. You are not weak if you cry. You are not weak if you just need someone to talk too. You are not a failure if it is simply just too much to handle, right now. Assess the situation, readjust, and try again. Just don’t give up on you. Don’t give up on your goals. There may even be a great reward on the other side of chaos if you simply silence the negativity and push through your fears. Even if there seems like there is no end in sight, you have the power to control your reaction. Try to maintain positive vibes. Stay positive. Speak life into yourself. Greatness is within you. Let March Madness end in March. No carrying it over! 🙂 Take positivity with you each day…
“Life is nothing without a little chaos to make it interesting.”
Monica Taylor is a Certified Professional Life Coach & Motivational Speaker. Monica inspires and motivates individuals to get out of their own way and live the life they desire. Click here to book a complimentary (YES, FREE) introductory coaching session.