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Monica’s Corner…

Monica’s Corner…

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Dear Monica: I’m a lady of a certain age and I have been out of school for nearly 20 years.  I love my job but I’d really like to be promoted.  With the position I’m currently in, I do not qualify for a promotion because I do not have enough college credits.  I’m scared to go back to school.  Really scared.  I’ve been out of school for so long that I don’t think I can do it.  Do I just accept that I won’t ever get a promotion or do I focus my efforts on something different.  I do have a business part-time but I’m not as focused on my business nor returning back to school.  I love my actual job and it’s really flexible.  Even if I left this job, I would still not qualify without going back to college.  Help. – B

Dear B: First, you have to decide what you truly want for your life.  Do you want that promotion?  Do you want to focus on your business?  Or can you somehow do both?  The feeling of fear and uncertainty are normal.  I remember when I decided that I would go back to school for my Masters.  I had been out of college for about 7 years.  I was terrified.  Honestly, half-way through I wanted to just quit.  I did not and about a month ago I graduated with my Masters.  It took me about two years to finish but I am so glad I took that leap.  If you really want that promotion, you are going to have to do the very thing that scares you.  Guess what, even if you don’t go back to school, the time will pass anyway and you will still be in that position.  Are you okay with that?  You mentioned your job was flexible.  Are they willing to let you devote some time to school while at work?  Some jobs understand that class credits are needed for promotion opportunity.  Talk with your supervisor and see if they are willing to help you with class credits, financially and through support.  I won’t sit here and say school will be a breeze.  It will be difficult.  You will second-guess yourself.  You will want to quit.  However, do not quit on you.  And guess what, it’s only temporary.  Temporary sacrifice for a lifetime gain.  Here’s what I want you to do:  Gather your transcripts and find out how many credits you truly need.  Call a few schools in the area or even online and talk with them about their programs.  Find a program that best suits your needs.  Set a realistic timeframe to return back to school.  This means paying for the class by that date.  Now, as for your business, is your heart in your business?  If school is just not in the cards for you, yes, you can definitely focus on your business.  The choice is up to you.  Make the choice that brings in additional income while being fulfilling to you.  Either way, continually remind yourself that rather you sit stagnant or make strides towards accomplishing your goals, the time will pass anyway.  As I always say, you have to get out of your own way and live the life you desire.  You decide what is best for you but it may not be a walk in the park.  However, it will all be worth it when you accomplish that very goal you’ve been desiring.  Thanks for writing in!!

  • Monica

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Monica’s Corner…

Monica’s Corner…

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Dear Monica: I was so hesitant about this and really had to work up the nerve.  I work in the Ask a Life Coach
insurance field and there is not a lot of room for growth where I reside.  I’m comfortable here, our house is paid for and we are comfortable, however, both my husband and I are getting bored with our jobs because there isn’t a lot of room for growth or opportunities. We are considering moving, there is a lot of opportunity in both our fields.  He’s ready to leave, but I’m terrified (mostly because we will be paying rent again after 10 years).  I know what the answer should be, but I think it would help hearing it from someone that is successful and took that jump. – A

Dear A:  First, I want to thank you for working up the nerve to write in your question.  You’re already taking the first step at getting uncomfortable.  Fear and hesitation are normal emotions that we must acknowledge.  Even though we acknowledge them, this does not mean that we succumb or give into them.  Here’s what I want you to do:  Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle.  I want you to write the pros and cons of staying where you are now versus moving for potential opportunity.  Which list is longer?!?  Sometimes, even if one list is longer or shorter than the other, some pros have a heavier weight than the cons.  Can you and your husband secure a position with growth opportunity prior to the move?  I know several companies who have assisted their employees in transitioning to a new job in a new area.  Can you remain with the same company and transfer to the new area?  Once you get to the area, you can both establish realistic timeframes of finding even more opportunities!  Now, in regards to the rent, I know the feeling.  I remember when I first moved to the Washington DC area, I had a roommate.  After a year, my roommate decided it would be best for her to move in with some relatives to save money.  I still hold this against her till this day.  Just kidding 🙂  Honestly, I panicked.  How was I going to find an apartment just as good for about the same price in this high DC area rent market.  I established a budget and what I was willing to pay.  Yes, I had to pay about $300 more than what I was accustomed too.  Your husband seems onboard with the possible move so I would sit down with him and research the rental rates in the area and establish a budget that makes you both comfortable.  With new opportunity comes more money!  Who knows, you may love the area and end up purchasing a house there too!  Have you considered renting out your current home?  If so, you can use some of that money towards your rental in the new location.  Ultimately, sometimes change is uncomfortable.  Change is not always easy.  As I always say, sometimes you have to simply do it in fear.  Sometimes you have to take that jump in uncertainty.  If you’re tired of watching the same rerun on the tv, you have to get up, get the remote and change the channel.  You can do this.  You just have to silence that little fear bug and create a realistic plan that both you and your husband can agree on.  You and he are more than capable of accomplishing what you all desire.  Set a realistic timeframe, budget, and save for the move.  Save an amount that you and your husband feel comfortable in the event you move before one of you has a new job.  I think that you know the answer.  You just have to convince yourself.  What’s stopping you?  Is it a legitimate fear or are you standing in your own way.  As I always say, get out of your own way and live the life you desire.  It’s your canvas, paint it 🙂  Thanks for writing in!!

-Monica


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The Worst Advice I’ve Ever Heard About Goals

The Worst Advice I’ve Ever Heard About Goals

Can you believe we are basically halfway through the year?  How are you doing with those 2017 goals?  Did they last beyond February, March?  It’s time to check-in on the various goals you set for 2017.   Here is the worst advice I’ve ever heard about goals:

  1. You don’t have to check in periodically on your goals.    

    No really, has anyone ever heard of this advice?  It is so important that you check-in periodically on your goals.  Rather it be monthly or bi-weekly, you need to continually assess your progress.  Progress does not happen overnight.  However, if you are not checking in, you may forget or simply find yourself no longer paying the necessary attention to your goal.  Have you checked in on your goals lately?  Today is a perfect day to see what areas you can improve in while giving yourself credit for the many things you have accomplished.  Celebrate the small wins just as much as you embrace the large ones.

  2. Goals should never be written down.  

    No seriously, they really should be written down.  I prefer to write my goals down on something I am forced to see regularly.  I actually have a whiteboard near the front door in my house.  It contains a summary of my goals.  Yes, I look at my goals each time I walk out of my house.  It serves as a reminder that I am not yet done.  I also write down my accomplishments.  Sometimes we get so focused on the big goal that we do not even realize what we have already accomplished.  I know I’m not the only one who is guilty of being too hard on themselves.  Take the time to write down your goals.  Make a vision board.  Put it somewhere you’re forced to look at everyday.  Today is a perfect day to revise any goals that need tweaking or simply define others a little further.  Have you written your goals down lately? 

  3. Goals tend to just accomplish themselves.  You don’t need to break big goals into small chunks.

    It can be overwhelming when we set huge goals.  At the beginning of the year we are motivated and inspired to accomplish every goal we set.  However, motivation will vary.  You must be disciplined.  This is why it helps to break goals into small chunks.  These chunks should be measurable and attainable.  Goals do not just accomplish themselves.  You must break the larger goals into small attainable chunks.  Have you checked in our goals lately?  It’s time to finish 2017 strong.  Cheers to the halfway mark!!   Be sure to book your free introductory coaching session.  I’d love to help you reach your goals.  Get out of your own way and live the life you desire!

    -Monica


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5 Ways to Practice Self-Care

5 Ways to Practice Self-Care

We must learn to perfect the art of balance and self-care each day.

I believe that self-care is critical to balancing the daily stress and responsibilities of life.  I know exactly what it is like to feel guilty for putting yourself first or simply saying no sometimes.  When I began to continually practice self-care, I no longer apologized for caring for myself, my health, and my peace of mind.  We must learn to perfect the art of balance and self-care each day.  If you find yourself constantly apologizing for needing “me-time,” stop apologizing!  You are not being selfish.  Selfish is not always a  bad word.  You cannot give your family, your friends, your job, or whatever that responsibility is your best version of YOU if you are constantly drained, mentally and physically.  I always make time for myself, even if it is only an hour a day or one day a week.  Sign up to receive my free guide, 5 Ways to Practice Self-Care.  It contains five ways I practice self-care and five affirmations I personally use.   

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Your Goals vs Sleep

Your Goals vs Sleep

Your Goals vs Sleep

A few days ago, I stayed up late to finish my 5 Ways to Practice Self-Care Guide.  It’s a one page guide with five ways and affirmations that are designed to help people practice self-care.  We must never apologize for putting ourselves first.  I started this guide a few weeks ago but with finishing upMonday my Masters, I was putting it off.  Last week, I made a commitment to myself to finish it and I knew that goal was more important than sleep.  I am not a fan of a lot of sleepless nights. Our body does need rest. However, sometimes the goal is worth more than sleep.  I stayed up late to finish something special. This is not the only time I have chosen my goal over sleep.  If you are constantly procrastinating on accomplishing your goals, you have to make a choice.  That goal has to be more important than sleep.  That goal has to be more important than going to Happy Hour with your best girlfriends.  That goal has to be more important than catching up with an old friend.  I am not saying that you should miss those moments.  I am saying if you want to truly see movement in your life, in your goals, you have to make a decision to choose it at all costs.  You cannot be in a constant cycle of blaming others for not reaching your goal.  Once the goal is complete, you can resume your normal sleep and happy hour patterns 🙂  

What goals are you putting off?  Which goals do you find yourself constantly making excuse after excuse, after excuse.  Sometimes the goal has to be more important than sleep or whatever you tend to spend the most time doing.  This is a great week to truly assess all of the goals you set at the beginning of the year.  What is stopping you from finishing that goal that should have been completed two months ago?  Is it you?  If it is you, get out of your own way.  No more making excuses.  The goal is more important than sleep.  

-Monica


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Stop Being Afraid

Stop Being Afraid

Stop Being Afraid…

No matter how many goals we set or how many tools are put in front of us, it will not mean a thing until we change our mental mindset.  Are you still mentally ready to accomplish those goals?  Have you made progress?  Stop being afraid of what could go wrong.  Stop being afraid of what others may think.  This is not the year of fear!

While shopping the other day, I thought about the typical New Year weight loss goal.  Of course I set one too.  Honestly, no matter what tool or program you utilize, you must be disciplined.  You must mentally be ready to do what it takes to lose the weight and even more committed to maintain the weight loss.  If your mental is not right, it will just be a continuos cycle of trying to achieve the very same goal.  I often have to check my mental, my mindset. I have to be mentally ready for the challenges and mentally ready for the victory.  What am I afraid of?  Success?  Do you actually believe you can accomplish that goal?  Are you ready for that moment when you’re gifted exactly what you’ve always been wanting?  There is nothing like getting invited to the hottest party in town with nothing to wear.  You must always have an outfit ready for the big event you’ve been desperately waiting for an invite to attend.  Are you self-sabatoging?  Are you holding yourself accountable for the goals you set?  Here are three ways I check myself mentally to ensure I stay on task:

  1. Accept that everyone won’t like what you’re doing

    No one can accomplish what you desire except you.  Stop fighting against yourself. How many times do we assume what we think others will say.  We spend countless minutes, even hours, wondering how this person will respond or react when they find out we are embarking on a new journey or a new goal.  When we finally tell them, they do not even react the way we thought they would!  We wasted precious mental energy wondering what they would say and how they would find a way to discourage us.  If you did share your dream with someone and they dismissed your goal, do not take it personal.  Some people are coming from a place of love and realism.  However, if that goal is possible and you can work towards it, you keep going.  Strategize.  Everyone will not be your cheerleader and that is okay.  You also have to learn that every “negative” comment is not coming from a place of hate.  Learn to decipher through constructive criticism and negativity.  Most people who give constructive criticism will present other alternatives to reaching your very goal. 

  2. Stop fighting yourself…

    Yes, stop fighting your own success.  I know I’m not the only former self-sabatoger.  When things are not going right, we have a tendency to beat ourselves up for every little mistake we make.  Guess what, mistakes happen.  Guess what, we will not always get it right.  Give yourself permission to make mistakes.  Each day amongst the land of the living is another chance to go 100% towards our goals.  Don’t quit on you.  When the world is beating you, don’t join in on the fight.  Stop fighting the very thing you desire.  I know it may not be packaged the way you expect it to be packaged.  You may have to fight a little harder than the next person.  Sometimes the best gifts come in the least expected packages.  Step out of your comfort zone.  Do things that make you uncomfortable.  Take risks.  Stop fighting your own success.

  3. Stop being afraid…

    I know that fear has a way of creeping up in our minds.  It lays dormant and then seems to rear its ugly head when we need it least.  You have to push through.  Push through the fear.  I promise if you continuously push through fear, with each risk you take, you will feel less fear.  Eventually, you’ll be like fear who?!  Do not be afraid to do something that scares you.  Yes, even I am afraid of doing things sometimes.  I can talk myself out of an opportunity with a quickness.  However, I tell myself to push through.  You got this.  Fear is just a feeling.  Success feels even better.

Let’s keep the momentum going.  Don’t give up on your goals.  If you need to reassess, reassess and keep going.  You got this!  Don’t be afraid of what you can accomplish!!


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Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace

New Year, New You right?  Evident by all of the Facebook and social media posts, 2017 is right around the corner.  Some of my friends have had an amazing 2016 and others cannot wait for it to be over.  As I read the various statuses, my heart aches for those who seem to just can’t find their way.  My heart aches for those who seem to be tested at every turn in their life.  Sometimes there is simply no answer as to why we are selected to face such difficulty, such a test in our life.  I mean what did we do so bad to get that particular issue?  Was he out of other people to bother?  Karma just can’t be thaaaat long.  I want you to know the importance of finding PEACE.  A few years ago, I decided that no matter what I faced I was going to speak and pray myself out of it.  I am the most overly positive person I know.  I even wonder about me sometimes lol.  Honestly, if you want 2017 to be your year of change, start changing your thinking now, in 2016.  I don’t know what you’ve been through but I know that it was not easy.  However, in some twisted dark fantasy way, you have to turn a negative into a positive, even if only fragment can become positive tools of growth.  I have this saying, “you are exactly where you are suppose to be right now, however, that does not mean you’ll be there forever.”  2016 was a trying year for me but for some reason I cannot even find it in myself to complain.  I am so thankful for everything I discovered.  I no longer feel guilty for choosing me first.  I’m so thankful for the friendships that grew but also thankful for those that may have been shortened.  Would I have preferred some things not happen?  Of course.  However, sometimes we just are not in control of everything that happens to us.  We have to take control of the things we can but most importantly take control of our reactions.  Life is a roller coaster.  We have to make sure our dips are not too deep.  No one wants to just stay in one part of the of the roller coaster for days.  You want the ride to be over and crazily some of you will go get on another roller coaster after just finishing one, literally.  (Can you tell I’m not a big fan of rollercoasters?)  My point is, life happens.  Sometimes you simply have to say life happens and muster up everything in you to smile.  Pull yourself out of that rut.  Here’s my way of approaching each year to avoid the New Year, Same Me story:  

Change Your Thoughts

Oh this one is not easy but I promise you it is worth it.  Earlier this year, I went to South Carolina nearly How to love youevery month or at least every other month.  My dad was sick and he is still recovering.  I watched my father have two toes amputated the year before and his wounds just were not healing.  I literally drove him to his doctor’s appointments and to an appointment daily where he spent about 4 hours in an oxygen chamber.  It was so hard watching my dad and the doctors find one thing after another.  However, I did not stay in my woe is me for too long.  I mean of course I cried.  My own health was suffering and I knew I had to find a way to remove as many stressful situations and people out of my life to focus on me while being there for my family.  Honestly, sometimes you have to just be there for you.  You have to create the most positive environment you can.  You have to think differently.  If all you did was complain in 2016, that complaining bug won’t magically disappear in 2017.  You have to turn those complaints into thankfulness.  How the heck do you thank the world for a messed-up situation?  It won’t happen overnight but you have to believe that this world is giving you some story that’s going to empower you while empowering others around you and even strangers.  The strength of some of my friends is unbreakable.  I witness how you’ve managed to hold it all together while the world is falling apart.  Some of you are secretly letting your world fall apart while appearing to hold it all together to the public.  I’m not saying broadcast to everyone how you’re feeling but please reach out and be honest with your closest friends.  Do not suffer in silence.  Do not get pulled into a place of constant negativity.  Seek help professionally if need be.  Just make sure you get the help you need to find your idea of positive thoughts.   There is no one-size fits all positive thinking however a simple change in thoughts can go a long way.  Speak positive, be positive, find positive.  Shift your mindset.  Change your thinking now in preparation for a better 2017.

Find Peace…Create it if you have too

If you’ve watched any of my motivational videos, I tend to speak about peace a lot.  Frankly, closure is not always gifted to us.  Sometimes we will not find closure.  Sometimes we won’t understand why the heck that mess happened to us.  Why we weren’t selected for that job.  Why we seem to make three steps forward only to be pushed back one.  Find peace.  Create it if you have too!  I know that everything I’ve been through is to be a testament to my circle and strangers alike.  I was gifted this diabetes at the age of 13.  I have battled with it like a “insert some playstation game that everyone knows” lol.  It has been hard.  I’ve done damage to my body because of the up and down blood sugar readings.  Find peace.  Create Peace.  You may not understand why but sometimes we have to accept the things we cannot change and do our best to create an environment where we are at peace with whatever happens but we are fighting our hardest for the best outcome.  We have to find peace when we don’t understand why that friendship or relationship ended.  We have to create peace when we just don’t understand why that happened to our loved one.  It is not easy.  When I tell you I have approached almost four to five years with this thinking, it is a process.  Heck, I’m still working on me but I know that being transparent is part of my purpose.  I know my purpose is helping others while I help myself.  I have to share my growth, my journey to peace.  You can find it. However, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen overnight.  Keep telling yourself that 2016 may not have been the best year but I witnessed it.  I made it.  I fought whatever it was and I’m going to keep fighting this thing and it won’t break me.  It might bend me but I’m not broken.  If you are broken, find peace and create a way to put yourself together again.  You have to realize that some were not even gifted the opportunity to see 2016. You were.  Create a way, find a way to journey towards the new you, the new-and-improved take life as it comes you.  Find peace, create peace.

There won’t always be an answer…

This may be the hardest.  I get so many stories of people going through things or been through things.  It always amazes me when people tell me their background and I’d never in a million years think they grew up in such an environment or they went through a particular situation.  Most of the time I’m like man they are the sweetest person ever and they went through all that?!?  They still manage to smile through it all.  Sometimes there will not be an answer.  Sometimes, life will just happen.  Sometimes you have to stop searching for answers and just find peace.  Some of you are stressing yourself out, spinning in circles as to why this happened.  There isn’t always an answer but sometimes the most difficult situation is given because you have the strength to handle it.  That’s twisted right? However, not everyone could go through what you’ve been through and still look as good as you.  You’re not defeated.  You’re not through.  You keep fighting.  You make those changes in 2017.  You grab life by the horns and you go get everything you desire in this life.  

The new year will not mean a thing if you do not change our thinking.  Find an outlet.  Practice self-care.  Do something that scares you.  Do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do.  Forgive someone who you’d never in a million years thought you’d forgive.  Forgive them for your own peace and closure.  Find peace in 2017 and continually find it the years to come.  We will always be continually improving ourselves.  Practice loving you just as hard as you love others.  I wish you peace in 2017.  I wish you love in 2017.  I wish you changed thoughts in 2017.  I wish you everything you desire in the new year and all the years to come.  

xoxo

Monica 


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Take Time to Take Time…

Take Time to Take Time…

The Importance of Taking Time…

Hi!!!  It has been a little while since I’ve written a blog post.  It seems like every time I take a flight, I get a blog idea.  I think it is safe to say that flights are my “blog motivation,” especially the turbulent “I should have just drove” ones.  I bought a last minute flight to go home for Thanksgiving.  Our flight was delayed but we had already boarded.  The flight attendant and pilot were not exactly communicating the reasons why we had not taken off yet.  We eventually found out that there were too many infants (lap babies) on the flight.  Really.  I honestly did not even know that FAA limited the number of lap children or that for some planes, only one side has oxygen masks for lap children.  I’m telling you this story to set up why it made me think of the importance of “taking time.”  

When we were cleared for takeoff, the pilot promised to make up for the lost time and to get us there still on time.  In my mind and to the lady sitting next to me, we both were like don’t rush this plane on our accounts.  Take your time.  Needless to say, I can tell that pilot “rushed” our flight home.  That little plane was going faster than it probably should have.  We had one of those dips mid-air and it was very turbulent during certain patches.  I truly believe that sometimes we are in a rush to get where we want to go.  We see “overnight successes” that were not exactly overnight.  We rush.  We have natural life setbacks.  We don’t take the time to take the time.  Everything is a process.  Do not beat yourself up because it is not happening as fast you would like.  Just don’t stop.  Don’t stop working.  Don’t stop grinding as they say.  Take time to take the time to accomplish your goals.  With only a few weeks left in 2016, whatever that goal you set for 2016, do not give up.  Do not simply ignore it until 2017.  We can all finish 2016 strong.  It takes time to cultivate success, whatever you define as success.  Take the time to take the time.  

Let’s finish 2016 strong.  How can you take the time to take the time this week?  Comment below.

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3 Things to Take Away from Surviving Compton

3 Things to Take Away from Surviving Compton

3 Things to Take Away from the Life of Michel’le…

Surviving Compton premiered on Lifetime tonight.  I must say I enjoyed the movie.  I watched Michel’le on R&B Divas and grew a liking to her.   Michel’le was signed to Easy-E’s Ruthless Records.  Some feel she was conveniently left out of the Straight out of Compton movie.  While a few scenes caused me to tear up, it is so important that her version, her story, her view, is told.  There are so many women who are or have been in abusive relationships.  There are so many who choose to remain silent.  Rather you agree with the authenticity of her story or not, it is a story that is often untold.  I will not blame Michel’le for staying.  I will not blame her for leaving one abusive relationship and moving on to another.  Honestly, my opinion is that Michel’le did not leave because she did not love herself enough to leave.  I think women must learn that you do not have to stop loving him to leave.  Being single can give you some time to truly get to know you, love you.  I will not simplify this into this blog post but there were some key takeaways in her sharing her story.  Sometimes your story can empower someone while being therapeutic for you.  Here are three takeaways from the Lifetime movie:

  1. Love Yourself More…

    I started iamWYS because I have had many people confide their stories, their secrets, in me.  I believe that my story plays a major role in the woman I am today.  I didn’t always love me the way I should love me.  I wanted to inspire others while I inspired myself.  Our story plays an integral part in the decisions we make.  Our upbringing can have a negative impact on our lives.  It impacts us daily rather we realize it or not.  I personally know women who have stayed in abusive relationships, cheating relationships, and just miserable all around relationships.  People are quick to assume it easy for these women to just leave.  Throw children into the mix and it can be even harder.  You cannot change a man.  He has to change for himself.  If you ever come to me for advice, I tell you exactly what I tell myself when I make the decision to leave a relationship for whatever reason.  “It is okay to love a person, but you have to love yourself more.”  I can’t tell you that it is easy to stop loving someone.  However, you have to love YOU more.  You have to know that through all your mess, there is a message.  You are of value.  You are worthy of healthy love.  Love yourself more…                                                                                                                        

  2. “Don’t let somebody give you hell covered in dollar bills.”

    While I highly doubt she said this line to Suge as portrayed in the movie, this was one of the most powerful lines of the movie.   We see that Michel’le grandmother instilled in her that abuse was okay.  It was normal.  This blog post is not just about abuse.  Do not let somebody give you hell covered in dollar bills.  Do not let that man or woman constantly disrespect you.  If he/she is constantly cheating on you or verbally abusing you, do not think that you cannot do any better.  Do not let somebody give you hell covered in dollar bills.  Of course, no one is perfect but if you feel like you’re waking up in hell everyday, you have to take a look at your situation. You are worth so much more.  I don’t care how unclean your past is… Money is not a reason to stay unhappy.  

  3. Forgive yourself…

    What do you do after you leave?  Forgive yourself for staying so long.  Take ownership of your role in the situation.  Yes, people will judge you.  They may call you all kind of names because you were not strong enough to leave sooner.  Regardless, forgive yourself.  Forgive yourself because I know it hurts.  It especially hurts when you see that person go on and seemingly have an amazing, happy, life.  The man who once abused you or just did not treat you right is now happily married with a new family.  He is seemingly a changed man.  Forgive yourself.  He has to deal with his own demons.  One thing I’ve learned is to forgive myself and forgive those who have wronged me.  There is no need in me losing sleep while they get to sleep like a newborn baby.  You made the decision but one thing about mistakes, we all make them.  Figure out why you are not loving you the way you should be loved.  This is not an overnight process.  I am an advocate of therapy.  Learn to love you.  Continue to grow…learn from your mistakes and be sure not to make the same ones over and over…

What did you think of the movie?  I’d love to hear your comments…

Until next time… 

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xoxo 

Monica


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Your Cup is Refillable…

Your Cup is Refillable…

Your Cup is Refillable…

A Facebook friend posed a question the other day.  Is your cup half-empty or half-full?  That post made me think back to one of my Instagram posts.  I posted that the cup isn’t necessarily half-empty or half-full, it is refillable.  Your cup is refillable.  We must find ways to replenish ourselves when empty and pour out positivity and love onto the world when we are overfilled with joy and blessings.  Is your cup half-empty or half-full?  Listen to my recent youtube video where I explain why my cup is refillable and why we must constantly replenish. 

 

 


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