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How I Stopped Walking on Eggshells

How I Stopped Walking on Eggshells

3 Ways to Stop Walking on Eggshells

Finding myself quite busy these past few weeks, I wasn’t sure what my next blog topic was going to be about.  If you know me, I’m a planner.  Yes, I have a go-to list of possible topics I could use but I wanted something different, something fresh on my mind.  As I enter a new year soon (hi 31!!), I have found myself being extremely blunt (yet respectful) with friends, associates, coworkers, and colleagues.  Simply put, I am at a place in my life where I prefer to no longer walk on eggshells.  Have you heard of this saying before?  If not, it means to be overly careful in dealing with a person or situation because they get angry or offended very easily.  You basically try very hard not to upset someone or something.  Granted, we should be sensitive to our friends and loved one’s feelings. However, “comfortability” does not make us grow.  It makes us comfortable.  There comes a point where we must simply stop walking on eggshells and stop trying to “save face.”  Is it easy?  Of course not.  Here are three ways I actively stop walking on eggshells in my life:

  1. Speak Up…

    My very first manager after college gave me some great advice.  At that time, I didn’t really understand the importance of her words.  I was the quiet, reserved, person at work.  Yes, I did my work well but it wasn’t something I’d brag about or highlight on my own.  However, my manager told me to stop being afraid of my accomplishments.  She also told me to not be afraid to ask for what I needed to effectively do my job.  She told me:  “The squeaky wheel gets the oil.”  At that time, being only 20, I got it but I didn’t get it.  Now, I fully get it.  In your life, both personal and professional, at some point, you have to stop walking on eggshells and being afraid to “hurt” someone’s feelings because you can’t do something or you intend to do something they may not like.  From a professional standpoint, my nontraditional “9-5” is highly regulated.  I have to tell managers and the-like no sometimes.  I have to tell people who run organizations of thousands of employees no.  Is it always the easiest conversation?  Nope.  However, when you know that you are right and your answer is based in regulation or some sort of policy, speak up.  Do not be afraid to be heard.  Do not be afraid to highlight your accomplishments when you know a promotion is up in the office.  Do not downplay your success because you do not want your colleague to be offended that you want that very position. Personally, do not be afraid to speak up and tell a friend or even your significant other that something is not making you happy.  They may not even know.  The squeaky wheel gets the oil.  Sometimes we are so afraid to hurt the feelings of others that we suffer and no one knows.  Don’t be afraid to speak up when something bothers you.

  2. Apologize but be firm…                                                                                                                           

    I know I’m not the only one who immediately thinks this when people start a conversation with “I don’t mean any harm, but….”  “I don’t mean to offend you, but…”  Honestly, in my mind, I’m already going you’re about to offend me lol.  However, it is a gateway into not walking on eggshells.  I’m guilty of being overly sensitive in my personal life.  The slightest thing can sometimes offend me, especially if from a friend.  However, as I continue to grow and become even more self-aware, I ask myself: Am I truly offended by what was said or are you just overanalyzing as usual?  Am I playing the game of assumptions?  If my mind is spinning, I simply stop walking on eggshells.  When it comes to speaking up, sometimes you may have to start with the typical “I don’t mean any harm but this will not be happening because….”  You have to be willing to deal with conflict.  I’m not saying go out there looking to start conflicts or disagreements.  However, if something is bothering you and it continues to linger, it will not help you suddenly get into a better place.  This goes for both your professional and personal life.  Now, at work, you are paid to walk on a few eggshells.  Don’t lose that good job trying to face an issue without being sensitive to the ramifications.  However, do not be afraid to speak up when you are within regulations and policy.  You can still be polite yet firm.  I often say no with a smile.  My smile is fixed on my face throughout the day unless you continue to challenge me.  I will try to educate you as to why I said no and present alternatives.  However, at some point, “no” does not always remedy the situation.  At that point, you must not be afraid to crack those eggshells when defending your decision or recommendation.  On a personal level, there does need to be tact when dealing with a friend or loved one, however, simply hoping a situation will go away will not resolve itself on its own.  Even if the situation goes away, are you truly okay with not addressing it?  If not, don’t walk on eggshells.  Tell your friend how their actions are impacting you or be honest with them as to why you are personally offended.  Apologize but be firm.  Your happiness is important in your life as well.

  3. Ignoring “it” won’t resolve “it”…    

    What have you been ignoring or accepting the last few weeks?  What have you been accepting all year?  People will treat you exactly how you allow them too unless you refuse to accept it.  What have you been allowing your friend to continue to do or continue to complain about without giving your honest advice?  Ignoring “it” will not resolve “it.”  The honest truth is that no matter what we say, no matter how sensitive we try to be, we may not get the answer we want.   I’ve learned to not ask a question until I am open to receiving any answer, favorable or unfavorable.  You may very well hurt my feelings even more.  However,  if I’m asking a question and looking for a particular answer, that means I am not truly ready to address the situation.  I am still basically walking on eggshells.  We have to realize that weeds untreated do not simply go away.  My homeowners know how wild weeds can grow when left untreated.  You have to pull the weeds up or at least spray them with weed killer.  If you are walking on eggshells in your own home, that is no way to live.  Address the situation.  Will it be easy?  Will you only mention it once and it immediately resolve itself?  I can’t promise that.  Will your loved-one or friend be offended?  Possibly.  However, be genuine yet firm.  Be understanding yet communicative.  Communication is effective when mixed with comprehension.  You may still agree to disagree, but for me, personally, getting things off my chest is therapeutic.   Normally, once I have spoken my mind, I am over the situation (unless it continues to repeat itself).  Ignoring it will not resolve it.  Don’t be afraid to speak up.  Do not be afraid to walk away from a friendship or relationship that no longer serves you.  Do not be afraid to advocate for your own emotional well-being.  It is perfectly okay to highlight an issue but still be willing and open to the other individuals point of view.  Who knows, you may just find common ground…

 

-Monica


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The World is Your Ocean

The World is Your Ocean

A few weeks ago, I took an unexpected trip to the beach with a good friend of mine.  When we first arrived, we took lots of pictures and then I told myself to unplug and enjoy the scenery.  Sometimes I need a mini-break from social media.  Quiet times allow me to gather my feelings and sort out my thoughts.  Sometimes we can spend so much time in our phones that we miss out on experiences.  As I looked out at the water, something came to me:  “The world is your ocean.  Rather you decide to swim or tread water, play in the ocean.”  How do you do that?  What do I mean?  Especially being that I cannot actually swim (lol)!  The world is my ocean.  The world is YOUR ocean.  Here are my three ways I encourage myself to play:

  1. Don’t be afraid to swim.

    This is coming from a person who cannot actually swim.  Metaphorically speaking, we must not be afraid to spread our wings and explore the ocean.  We must not fear the very things we desire.  We must not be afraid to step outside of our comfort zone.  

  2. Tread water until you’re comfortable.

    I took a swimming class a few years ago and one thing I semi-learned was to tread water.  Sometimes you are simply tired or at a roadblock.  When you’re in the ocean, you either have to keep swimming or tread water to stay afloat.  Instead of returning back to the shore and quitting on your goals, tread water.  Think of your next move.  Think of how you can improve your life and your plan towards your goal.  Even in stagnant moments, we can begin planning our next move.  Tread water, learn and grow, while you get comfortable for the full out swim towards your goal.

  3. Be sure to enjoy the view.  

    Take a moment and truly bask in your accomplishments.  Sometimes we are so focused on what we need to get done that we do not celebrate our accomplishments.  Enjoy the view of the ocean, even if it is for the shore.  Life is not promised so be sure to bask in today.  Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift.  Be sure to enjoy the view.  Be sure to enjoy those moments with family and friends.  It’s perfectly okay to make time for fun in between your hours of grinding.  Enjoy life.  Enjoy today.

How can you play in the ocean?  Are you enjoying the view?

-Monica 


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Monica’s Corner…

Monica’s Corner…

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Dear Monica: I’m a lady of a certain age and I have been out of school for nearly 20 years.  I love my job but I’d really like to be promoted.  With the position I’m currently in, I do not qualify for a promotion because I do not have enough college credits.  I’m scared to go back to school.  Really scared.  I’ve been out of school for so long that I don’t think I can do it.  Do I just accept that I won’t ever get a promotion or do I focus my efforts on something different.  I do have a business part-time but I’m not as focused on my business nor returning back to school.  I love my actual job and it’s really flexible.  Even if I left this job, I would still not qualify without going back to college.  Help. – B

Dear B: First, you have to decide what you truly want for your life.  Do you want that promotion?  Do you want to focus on your business?  Or can you somehow do both?  The feeling of fear and uncertainty are normal.  I remember when I decided that I would go back to school for my Masters.  I had been out of college for about 7 years.  I was terrified.  Honestly, half-way through I wanted to just quit.  I did not and about a month ago I graduated with my Masters.  It took me about two years to finish but I am so glad I took that leap.  If you really want that promotion, you are going to have to do the very thing that scares you.  Guess what, even if you don’t go back to school, the time will pass anyway and you will still be in that position.  Are you okay with that?  You mentioned your job was flexible.  Are they willing to let you devote some time to school while at work?  Some jobs understand that class credits are needed for promotion opportunity.  Talk with your supervisor and see if they are willing to help you with class credits, financially and through support.  I won’t sit here and say school will be a breeze.  It will be difficult.  You will second-guess yourself.  You will want to quit.  However, do not quit on you.  And guess what, it’s only temporary.  Temporary sacrifice for a lifetime gain.  Here’s what I want you to do:  Gather your transcripts and find out how many credits you truly need.  Call a few schools in the area or even online and talk with them about their programs.  Find a program that best suits your needs.  Set a realistic timeframe to return back to school.  This means paying for the class by that date.  Now, as for your business, is your heart in your business?  If school is just not in the cards for you, yes, you can definitely focus on your business.  The choice is up to you.  Make the choice that brings in additional income while being fulfilling to you.  Either way, continually remind yourself that rather you sit stagnant or make strides towards accomplishing your goals, the time will pass anyway.  As I always say, you have to get out of your own way and live the life you desire.  You decide what is best for you but it may not be a walk in the park.  However, it will all be worth it when you accomplish that very goal you’ve been desiring.  Thanks for writing in!!

  • Monica

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Monica’s Corner…

Monica’s Corner…

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Dear Monica: I was so hesitant about this and really had to work up the nerve.  I work in the Ask a Life Coach
insurance field and there is not a lot of room for growth where I reside.  I’m comfortable here, our house is paid for and we are comfortable, however, both my husband and I are getting bored with our jobs because there isn’t a lot of room for growth or opportunities. We are considering moving, there is a lot of opportunity in both our fields.  He’s ready to leave, but I’m terrified (mostly because we will be paying rent again after 10 years).  I know what the answer should be, but I think it would help hearing it from someone that is successful and took that jump. – A

Dear A:  First, I want to thank you for working up the nerve to write in your question.  You’re already taking the first step at getting uncomfortable.  Fear and hesitation are normal emotions that we must acknowledge.  Even though we acknowledge them, this does not mean that we succumb or give into them.  Here’s what I want you to do:  Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle.  I want you to write the pros and cons of staying where you are now versus moving for potential opportunity.  Which list is longer?!?  Sometimes, even if one list is longer or shorter than the other, some pros have a heavier weight than the cons.  Can you and your husband secure a position with growth opportunity prior to the move?  I know several companies who have assisted their employees in transitioning to a new job in a new area.  Can you remain with the same company and transfer to the new area?  Once you get to the area, you can both establish realistic timeframes of finding even more opportunities!  Now, in regards to the rent, I know the feeling.  I remember when I first moved to the Washington DC area, I had a roommate.  After a year, my roommate decided it would be best for her to move in with some relatives to save money.  I still hold this against her till this day.  Just kidding 🙂  Honestly, I panicked.  How was I going to find an apartment just as good for about the same price in this high DC area rent market.  I established a budget and what I was willing to pay.  Yes, I had to pay about $300 more than what I was accustomed too.  Your husband seems onboard with the possible move so I would sit down with him and research the rental rates in the area and establish a budget that makes you both comfortable.  With new opportunity comes more money!  Who knows, you may love the area and end up purchasing a house there too!  Have you considered renting out your current home?  If so, you can use some of that money towards your rental in the new location.  Ultimately, sometimes change is uncomfortable.  Change is not always easy.  As I always say, sometimes you have to simply do it in fear.  Sometimes you have to take that jump in uncertainty.  If you’re tired of watching the same rerun on the tv, you have to get up, get the remote and change the channel.  You can do this.  You just have to silence that little fear bug and create a realistic plan that both you and your husband can agree on.  You and he are more than capable of accomplishing what you all desire.  Set a realistic timeframe, budget, and save for the move.  Save an amount that you and your husband feel comfortable in the event you move before one of you has a new job.  I think that you know the answer.  You just have to convince yourself.  What’s stopping you?  Is it a legitimate fear or are you standing in your own way.  As I always say, get out of your own way and live the life you desire.  It’s your canvas, paint it 🙂  Thanks for writing in!!

-Monica


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The Worst Advice I’ve Ever Heard About Goals

The Worst Advice I’ve Ever Heard About Goals

Can you believe we are basically halfway through the year?  How are you doing with those 2017 goals?  Did they last beyond February, March?  It’s time to check-in on the various goals you set for 2017.   Here is the worst advice I’ve ever heard about goals:

  1. You don’t have to check in periodically on your goals.    

    No really, has anyone ever heard of this advice?  It is so important that you check-in periodically on your goals.  Rather it be monthly or bi-weekly, you need to continually assess your progress.  Progress does not happen overnight.  However, if you are not checking in, you may forget or simply find yourself no longer paying the necessary attention to your goal.  Have you checked in on your goals lately?  Today is a perfect day to see what areas you can improve in while giving yourself credit for the many things you have accomplished.  Celebrate the small wins just as much as you embrace the large ones.

  2. Goals should never be written down.  

    No seriously, they really should be written down.  I prefer to write my goals down on something I am forced to see regularly.  I actually have a whiteboard near the front door in my house.  It contains a summary of my goals.  Yes, I look at my goals each time I walk out of my house.  It serves as a reminder that I am not yet done.  I also write down my accomplishments.  Sometimes we get so focused on the big goal that we do not even realize what we have already accomplished.  I know I’m not the only one who is guilty of being too hard on themselves.  Take the time to write down your goals.  Make a vision board.  Put it somewhere you’re forced to look at everyday.  Today is a perfect day to revise any goals that need tweaking or simply define others a little further.  Have you written your goals down lately? 

  3. Goals tend to just accomplish themselves.  You don’t need to break big goals into small chunks.

    It can be overwhelming when we set huge goals.  At the beginning of the year we are motivated and inspired to accomplish every goal we set.  However, motivation will vary.  You must be disciplined.  This is why it helps to break goals into small chunks.  These chunks should be measurable and attainable.  Goals do not just accomplish themselves.  You must break the larger goals into small attainable chunks.  Have you checked in our goals lately?  It’s time to finish 2017 strong.  Cheers to the halfway mark!!   Be sure to book your free introductory coaching session.  I’d love to help you reach your goals.  Get out of your own way and live the life you desire!

    -Monica


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5 Ways to Practice Self-Care

5 Ways to Practice Self-Care

We must learn to perfect the art of balance and self-care each day.

I believe that self-care is critical to balancing the daily stress and responsibilities of life.  I know exactly what it is like to feel guilty for putting yourself first or simply saying no sometimes.  When I began to continually practice self-care, I no longer apologized for caring for myself, my health, and my peace of mind.  We must learn to perfect the art of balance and self-care each day.  If you find yourself constantly apologizing for needing “me-time,” stop apologizing!  You are not being selfish.  Selfish is not always a  bad word.  You cannot give your family, your friends, your job, or whatever that responsibility is your best version of YOU if you are constantly drained, mentally and physically.  I always make time for myself, even if it is only an hour a day or one day a week.  Sign up to receive my free guide, 5 Ways to Practice Self-Care.  It contains five ways I practice self-care and five affirmations I personally use.   

-Monica 

 

Your Goals vs Sleep

Your Goals vs Sleep

Your Goals vs Sleep

A few days ago, I stayed up late to finish my 5 Ways to Practice Self-Care Guide.  It’s a one page guide with five ways and affirmations that are designed to help people practice self-care.  We must never apologize for putting ourselves first.  I started this guide a few weeks ago but with finishing upMonday my Masters, I was putting it off.  Last week, I made a commitment to myself to finish it and I knew that goal was more important than sleep.  I am not a fan of a lot of sleepless nights. Our body does need rest. However, sometimes the goal is worth more than sleep.  I stayed up late to finish something special. This is not the only time I have chosen my goal over sleep.  If you are constantly procrastinating on accomplishing your goals, you have to make a choice.  That goal has to be more important than sleep.  That goal has to be more important than going to Happy Hour with your best girlfriends.  That goal has to be more important than catching up with an old friend.  I am not saying that you should miss those moments.  I am saying if you want to truly see movement in your life, in your goals, you have to make a decision to choose it at all costs.  You cannot be in a constant cycle of blaming others for not reaching your goal.  Once the goal is complete, you can resume your normal sleep and happy hour patterns 🙂  

What goals are you putting off?  Which goals do you find yourself constantly making excuse after excuse, after excuse.  Sometimes the goal has to be more important than sleep or whatever you tend to spend the most time doing.  This is a great week to truly assess all of the goals you set at the beginning of the year.  What is stopping you from finishing that goal that should have been completed two months ago?  Is it you?  If it is you, get out of your own way.  No more making excuses.  The goal is more important than sleep.  

-Monica


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Stop Being Afraid

Stop Being Afraid

Stop Being Afraid…

No matter how many goals we set or how many tools are put in front of us, it will not mean a thing until we change our mental mindset.  Are you still mentally ready to accomplish those goals?  Have you made progress?  Stop being afraid of what could go wrong.  Stop being afraid of what others may think.  This is not the year of fear!

While shopping the other day, I thought about the typical New Year weight loss goal.  Of course I set one too.  Honestly, no matter what tool or program you utilize, you must be disciplined.  You must mentally be ready to do what it takes to lose the weight and even more committed to maintain the weight loss.  If your mental is not right, it will just be a continuos cycle of trying to achieve the very same goal.  I often have to check my mental, my mindset. I have to be mentally ready for the challenges and mentally ready for the victory.  What am I afraid of?  Success?  Do you actually believe you can accomplish that goal?  Are you ready for that moment when you’re gifted exactly what you’ve always been wanting?  There is nothing like getting invited to the hottest party in town with nothing to wear.  You must always have an outfit ready for the big event you’ve been desperately waiting for an invite to attend.  Are you self-sabatoging?  Are you holding yourself accountable for the goals you set?  Here are three ways I check myself mentally to ensure I stay on task:

  1. Accept that everyone won’t like what you’re doing

    No one can accomplish what you desire except you.  Stop fighting against yourself. How many times do we assume what we think others will say.  We spend countless minutes, even hours, wondering how this person will respond or react when they find out we are embarking on a new journey or a new goal.  When we finally tell them, they do not even react the way we thought they would!  We wasted precious mental energy wondering what they would say and how they would find a way to discourage us.  If you did share your dream with someone and they dismissed your goal, do not take it personal.  Some people are coming from a place of love and realism.  However, if that goal is possible and you can work towards it, you keep going.  Strategize.  Everyone will not be your cheerleader and that is okay.  You also have to learn that every “negative” comment is not coming from a place of hate.  Learn to decipher through constructive criticism and negativity.  Most people who give constructive criticism will present other alternatives to reaching your very goal. 

  2. Stop fighting yourself…

    Yes, stop fighting your own success.  I know I’m not the only former self-sabatoger.  When things are not going right, we have a tendency to beat ourselves up for every little mistake we make.  Guess what, mistakes happen.  Guess what, we will not always get it right.  Give yourself permission to make mistakes.  Each day amongst the land of the living is another chance to go 100% towards our goals.  Don’t quit on you.  When the world is beating you, don’t join in on the fight.  Stop fighting the very thing you desire.  I know it may not be packaged the way you expect it to be packaged.  You may have to fight a little harder than the next person.  Sometimes the best gifts come in the least expected packages.  Step out of your comfort zone.  Do things that make you uncomfortable.  Take risks.  Stop fighting your own success.

  3. Stop being afraid…

    I know that fear has a way of creeping up in our minds.  It lays dormant and then seems to rear its ugly head when we need it least.  You have to push through.  Push through the fear.  I promise if you continuously push through fear, with each risk you take, you will feel less fear.  Eventually, you’ll be like fear who?!  Do not be afraid to do something that scares you.  Yes, even I am afraid of doing things sometimes.  I can talk myself out of an opportunity with a quickness.  However, I tell myself to push through.  You got this.  Fear is just a feeling.  Success feels even better.

Let’s keep the momentum going.  Don’t give up on your goals.  If you need to reassess, reassess and keep going.  You got this!  Don’t be afraid of what you can accomplish!!


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Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace in 2017…

Finding Peace

New Year, New You right?  Evident by all of the Facebook and social media posts, 2017 is right around the corner.  Some of my friends have had an amazing 2016 and others cannot wait for it to be over.  As I read the various statuses, my heart aches for those who seem to just can’t find their way.  My heart aches for those who seem to be tested at every turn in their life.  Sometimes there is simply no answer as to why we are selected to face such difficulty, such a test in our life.  I mean what did we do so bad to get that particular issue?  Was he out of other people to bother?  Karma just can’t be thaaaat long.  I want you to know the importance of finding PEACE.  A few years ago, I decided that no matter what I faced I was going to speak and pray myself out of it.  I am the most overly positive person I know.  I even wonder about me sometimes lol.  Honestly, if you want 2017 to be your year of change, start changing your thinking now, in 2016.  I don’t know what you’ve been through but I know that it was not easy.  However, in some twisted dark fantasy way, you have to turn a negative into a positive, even if only fragment can become positive tools of growth.  I have this saying, “you are exactly where you are suppose to be right now, however, that does not mean you’ll be there forever.”  2016 was a trying year for me but for some reason I cannot even find it in myself to complain.  I am so thankful for everything I discovered.  I no longer feel guilty for choosing me first.  I’m so thankful for the friendships that grew but also thankful for those that may have been shortened.  Would I have preferred some things not happen?  Of course.  However, sometimes we just are not in control of everything that happens to us.  We have to take control of the things we can but most importantly take control of our reactions.  Life is a roller coaster.  We have to make sure our dips are not too deep.  No one wants to just stay in one part of the of the roller coaster for days.  You want the ride to be over and crazily some of you will go get on another roller coaster after just finishing one, literally.  (Can you tell I’m not a big fan of rollercoasters?)  My point is, life happens.  Sometimes you simply have to say life happens and muster up everything in you to smile.  Pull yourself out of that rut.  Here’s my way of approaching each year to avoid the New Year, Same Me story:  

Change Your Thoughts

Oh this one is not easy but I promise you it is worth it.  Earlier this year, I went to South Carolina nearly How to love youevery month or at least every other month.  My dad was sick and he is still recovering.  I watched my father have two toes amputated the year before and his wounds just were not healing.  I literally drove him to his doctor’s appointments and to an appointment daily where he spent about 4 hours in an oxygen chamber.  It was so hard watching my dad and the doctors find one thing after another.  However, I did not stay in my woe is me for too long.  I mean of course I cried.  My own health was suffering and I knew I had to find a way to remove as many stressful situations and people out of my life to focus on me while being there for my family.  Honestly, sometimes you have to just be there for you.  You have to create the most positive environment you can.  You have to think differently.  If all you did was complain in 2016, that complaining bug won’t magically disappear in 2017.  You have to turn those complaints into thankfulness.  How the heck do you thank the world for a messed-up situation?  It won’t happen overnight but you have to believe that this world is giving you some story that’s going to empower you while empowering others around you and even strangers.  The strength of some of my friends is unbreakable.  I witness how you’ve managed to hold it all together while the world is falling apart.  Some of you are secretly letting your world fall apart while appearing to hold it all together to the public.  I’m not saying broadcast to everyone how you’re feeling but please reach out and be honest with your closest friends.  Do not suffer in silence.  Do not get pulled into a place of constant negativity.  Seek help professionally if need be.  Just make sure you get the help you need to find your idea of positive thoughts.   There is no one-size fits all positive thinking however a simple change in thoughts can go a long way.  Speak positive, be positive, find positive.  Shift your mindset.  Change your thinking now in preparation for a better 2017.

Find Peace…Create it if you have too

If you’ve watched any of my motivational videos, I tend to speak about peace a lot.  Frankly, closure is not always gifted to us.  Sometimes we will not find closure.  Sometimes we won’t understand why the heck that mess happened to us.  Why we weren’t selected for that job.  Why we seem to make three steps forward only to be pushed back one.  Find peace.  Create it if you have too!  I know that everything I’ve been through is to be a testament to my circle and strangers alike.  I was gifted this diabetes at the age of 13.  I have battled with it like a “insert some playstation game that everyone knows” lol.  It has been hard.  I’ve done damage to my body because of the up and down blood sugar readings.  Find peace.  Create Peace.  You may not understand why but sometimes we have to accept the things we cannot change and do our best to create an environment where we are at peace with whatever happens but we are fighting our hardest for the best outcome.  We have to find peace when we don’t understand why that friendship or relationship ended.  We have to create peace when we just don’t understand why that happened to our loved one.  It is not easy.  When I tell you I have approached almost four to five years with this thinking, it is a process.  Heck, I’m still working on me but I know that being transparent is part of my purpose.  I know my purpose is helping others while I help myself.  I have to share my growth, my journey to peace.  You can find it. However, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen overnight.  Keep telling yourself that 2016 may not have been the best year but I witnessed it.  I made it.  I fought whatever it was and I’m going to keep fighting this thing and it won’t break me.  It might bend me but I’m not broken.  If you are broken, find peace and create a way to put yourself together again.  You have to realize that some were not even gifted the opportunity to see 2016. You were.  Create a way, find a way to journey towards the new you, the new-and-improved take life as it comes you.  Find peace, create peace.

There won’t always be an answer…

This may be the hardest.  I get so many stories of people going through things or been through things.  It always amazes me when people tell me their background and I’d never in a million years think they grew up in such an environment or they went through a particular situation.  Most of the time I’m like man they are the sweetest person ever and they went through all that?!?  They still manage to smile through it all.  Sometimes there will not be an answer.  Sometimes, life will just happen.  Sometimes you have to stop searching for answers and just find peace.  Some of you are stressing yourself out, spinning in circles as to why this happened.  There isn’t always an answer but sometimes the most difficult situation is given because you have the strength to handle it.  That’s twisted right? However, not everyone could go through what you’ve been through and still look as good as you.  You’re not defeated.  You’re not through.  You keep fighting.  You make those changes in 2017.  You grab life by the horns and you go get everything you desire in this life.  

The new year will not mean a thing if you do not change our thinking.  Find an outlet.  Practice self-care.  Do something that scares you.  Do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do.  Forgive someone who you’d never in a million years thought you’d forgive.  Forgive them for your own peace and closure.  Find peace in 2017 and continually find it the years to come.  We will always be continually improving ourselves.  Practice loving you just as hard as you love others.  I wish you peace in 2017.  I wish you love in 2017.  I wish you changed thoughts in 2017.  I wish you everything you desire in the new year and all the years to come.  

xoxo

Monica 


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Take Time to Take Time…

Take Time to Take Time…

The Importance of Taking Time…

Hi!!!  It has been a little while since I’ve written a blog post.  It seems like every time I take a flight, I get a blog idea.  I think it is safe to say that flights are my “blog motivation,” especially the turbulent “I should have just drove” ones.  I bought a last minute flight to go home for Thanksgiving.  Our flight was delayed but we had already boarded.  The flight attendant and pilot were not exactly communicating the reasons why we had not taken off yet.  We eventually found out that there were too many infants (lap babies) on the flight.  Really.  I honestly did not even know that FAA limited the number of lap children or that for some planes, only one side has oxygen masks for lap children.  I’m telling you this story to set up why it made me think of the importance of “taking time.”  

When we were cleared for takeoff, the pilot promised to make up for the lost time and to get us there still on time.  In my mind and to the lady sitting next to me, we both were like don’t rush this plane on our accounts.  Take your time.  Needless to say, I can tell that pilot “rushed” our flight home.  That little plane was going faster than it probably should have.  We had one of those dips mid-air and it was very turbulent during certain patches.  I truly believe that sometimes we are in a rush to get where we want to go.  We see “overnight successes” that were not exactly overnight.  We rush.  We have natural life setbacks.  We don’t take the time to take the time.  Everything is a process.  Do not beat yourself up because it is not happening as fast you would like.  Just don’t stop.  Don’t stop working.  Don’t stop grinding as they say.  Take time to take the time to accomplish your goals.  With only a few weeks left in 2016, whatever that goal you set for 2016, do not give up.  Do not simply ignore it until 2017.  We can all finish 2016 strong.  It takes time to cultivate success, whatever you define as success.  Take the time to take the time.  

Let’s finish 2016 strong.  How can you take the time to take the time this week?  Comment below.

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